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A Letter to Emma by DestinyBlue A Letter to Emma by DestinyBlue
Dear Emma,

I write this as a friend. Well, you're my little sisters friend really. You grew up together, often round my house, playing in my garden, I've watched you grow into a wonderful young woman. So maybe I write this more as a sister. An angry sister.

I'm upset because someone called you names:
'Ugly' 'Worthless' 'Disgusting' 'Childish' 'Boring'  

To come from a stranger they would be bad enough. But to come from your boyfriend; the person you are supposed to trust most, must be so hard.
I am angry because these words are not true. You are none of these things.
But when someone calls us something, I know how the words can sit on your skin, and before you notice, they push deeper, into your blood and bones, they turn into the script we read from. Their ugly echos worm their way into your thoughts, actions, being. So deep you don't even feel them as something else, they are feel they are part of you. 'ugly' 'useless' 'boring' become the foundation of your wall. And it saddens me to think these words your boyfriend said might stick to you. It's our partners words we should be able to trust most of all. They are supposed to see us in the rose coloured light, build us up, and be our best ally.

'Beautiful' 'Funny' 'Positive' 'Trustworthy' 'Kind'

These are words that truly describe you Emma. I don't know why your partner didn't use them. Why he didn't want to bring you up rather than put you down. Only he knows why.
I can't tell you who to be with. I can't tell you what's right for you.
I can tell you I stayed too long with someone who wrote bad things on my bricks, and I'm still in the process of scrubbing them off.
All I can advise, with everything I have (and that's mostly drawing) is, however right it feels like they fit, to not slide those bad bricks in. Fill yourself with good ones for all you can, for if we hold 'beautiful' as a brick in our foundation, there is no place when someone hands us a brick of 'ugly'. We can just throw it away.

Emma. You are Beautiful.

Lost of love, your sister friend,
Blue xx

Yes, Emma is real, I drew and wrote this for her after I heard her boyfriends words. It 's not about telling her to leave. It's about supporting her. Having stayed in a bad relationship myself  (with my first partner, not my most recent, wonderful one) I know the real damage is done internally, and someone telling you to leave isn't much help. But someone building you up, and supporting you emotionally, really does help you think twice when you are treated poorly by someone who supposedly loves you.
She said I could share the letter/picture because lots of other people probably need a 'Beautiful' brick too. See, I told you she was kind :) She asked her name be changed so her boyfriend didn't get any abuse.

Peace, Love and Supporting Each other,
Blue x

~Featured Art~
Self Care by DestinyBlue WARPAINT by DestinyBlue Dark Side by DestinyBlue The Author by DestinyBlue Imprint by DestinyBlue Trust by DestinyBlue
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goosetooth Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
that's awful I hope Emma's okay
taemart Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2018  Professional Digital Artist
this is a great messege 
Spreigo Featured By Owner Apr 25, 2018  Student Digital Artist
Ima Emma some letters for meh xD
TheBoredAsHell Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2018  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Such a wonderful message, i hope she can move on 

meanwhile let me pummel the boyfriend with my own brick
mabiesison Featured By Owner Edited Jan 30, 2018  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I was in the middle of class when I saw this and I cried a bit
I know it's directed for your wonderful sister but it speaks for us, victims.
I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship. It was great at first but it suddenly became worse little by little. I was given suicidal threats and I wasn't allowed to be a feminist. I was always cut off honestly
I dumped him back in march 2017 then I felt free yet traumatized. A month later, he was threatening for his life begging on his knees for me to come back for the sake of the relationship. I refused and he called me WEAK.
I've had past traumas for months and I sometimes I think he was right. I got up my knees, studied, got good grades, had self confidence, learned how to dress better and made peace with family and friends. I met someone new and I'm now receiving real love.
I was happier. Then something attacked me like a thought of why is he still haunting me. I saw your note and got touched. Then I moved along. 

Thank you for uplifting everyone :) we are all strong and I hope lovely Emma gets to recover and have a happier life without him. Go do great stuff! Love yourselves! Love people who deserve your love and forgive your past
Becca114 Featured By Owner Feb 27, 2018  Student Digital Artist
Very well said... 
TippleTopple Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
There's surprisingly kind of a strong meaning to this that I can relate to. That's pretty much what I say when I look at all your art. La la la la 
TheyNeverDid Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2018  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I can relate to this. No one should be able to, because we shouldn't say such horrible things to each other, but life isn't perfect. Many of us face abusive relationships, or just derogatory comments, and the douche bags of the world. Many of us don't feel like we have that brick, but we do. We also have intelligence, and one of the most important of all, kindness. 
Glomp emoticon 
Haezir0 Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2018
i love it 
BigWolfyHeart Featured By Owner Jan 2, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I didn't Read the stroy to the end, but the First sentences was full whit Love i understandt you .

And Love you're Art

i'm Happy for you that you felling better 😊

I'm sorry for my bad englisch

Have a great day ❤
RebellingLemming3 Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2017
Amazing artwork with an amazing idea! 
heartswave Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
this is beautiful and im not just talking about the artwork (thats amazing) but the fact it was made for someone you care about makes it one of the most wonderful things in the world
StrawberryScissors Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2017
This is truly beautiful. Your art always brings me joy, you give such great advice.
MObubbles Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2017  Student Digital Artist
Wow, this is beautiful, both in art and words.  It's truly touching and eye opening.  I went through something very similar a little over a year ago now, and I so wish I had someone to tell me not to let those bad bricks be my foundation.  I'm so glad that the internet has this now, for all those people who may be going through something similar.  Your art and words are always so uplifting, Blue, thank you and thank Emma for sharing this.
Wonderwoman07 Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2017
This is so beautiful. I love this art work. 
EmiliaAino Featured By Owner Oct 10, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
This is one of the best works from you what hits on my heart right way... I have had this feeling like the girl in this work has so long as i can remember...
I just LOVE it and all another works you have done.

Thank you for making this kind of artHug 

Heart Heart Heart 
ZatchZ Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Friends who take the bad words outta your body.
ZatchZ Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Why is her hand holding the brick like that?
milkbits Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Why does it matter?
ZatchZ Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Is it symbolic of something? Or is it because the artist flub the sketch but went with it.
So many questions...
Hane-no-hi Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you
Keep beautiful for you Emma!
rumRei Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
your art and words are always so inspirational. I really admire all your work it's incredible. 
schnarre Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2017
...A fine show of support Blue!! :hug:
Jay-The-Punk Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2017
                                                              ART CRITIQUE
                                                              by Jay-The-Punk
Piece name: A Letter to Emma
Artist: DestinyBlue

Once again the only bit I can pick up on is Emma's left our right hand I think it's meant to be the brick on the end of the fingertips but it comes off as a little elongated in the fingers and doesn't seem to quite match.

This is super sharp lines very fresh, clean, and defined, the details in all this are amazing! The writing on the bricks where it's slightly gappy brilliant! Just everything about this is rather wonderful it all seems spot on. The idea of bricks to help you build is great also bricks are often used in violence so it has a real grittiness to it and the words seem harsher because of that.   

A very distinctively sharp piece, very clean airy feeling to it overall spectacular except for that hand but otherwise amazing great, great job Blue!

Personal Note:
I love the idea of you helping someone else like this, I love the personal touch in a different way, I almost didn't critique this one cause it felt so personal to Emma and yourself like I was walking into the middle of a conversation, I've always respected your boundaries and worried sometimes I may have overstepped them at times maybe I worry too much? but I always think you'll let me in closer if you wanted to or it feels right for you. Anyway! Wishing Emma the very best in her present and future :)
I have to admit I felt sad hearing someone so close at one point would have made you feel like that and it's had such a lasting effect on you, it makes me sad as I see the warmth and good in you but I know how tough you are too! Maybe scrubbing the bricks isn't going to much anymore, maybe you need a different approach to cleaning those bricks? if they can't be replaced that is :) *now speaking to self* anyway that's enough you! you're not Freud or anything XD

Please note that DestinyBlue has asked me to do critiques on her artwork.
If you disagree with my critique please don't hesitate to say so but please keep it constructive, thank you :)

If you would like critique on your artwork please send me a note on deviantart.

Jaythepunk \m/
GamerAz Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
So pretty
Swirlybump Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2017  Student Digital Artist
*steal all his money and burn his house down*
Lovely11812 Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2017
this makes me wanna throw a brick at the boyfriend.
SapphireRose2 Featured By Owner Sep 23, 2017  Hobbyist
I love the meaning of the piece. Wonderful work!
MetalGrom Featured By Owner Sep 23, 2017
Love your message, be careful about the bricks (and thoughts) you build your character upon.

The colors are magnificent, the girl glows with inner strength. The red / magenta area around the face caught my eye especially.
0HarukaMomo Featured By Owner Sep 19, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is such an awesome artwork! It has pastels which is my aesthetic but, it has a deep meaning I can relate to, bravo!
mythicaldragon7 Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Why would you call all that shit to your soulmate if you loved them?
IIkittenII Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Hobbyist Artist
I love this because no matter what others think of you, what matters is how you feel about yourself.
lovekawaii03 Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017
I almost cried because this is so true.
AdoptabI3 Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Such a gorgeous piece. I hope Emma is able to move on from her abusive relationship. I have a friend that was in the same boat, but she was able to leave. They do have a kid, though, so that makes it even harder. :(
CassandraArtemis Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Student General Artist
this is gorgeous, reading that made me cry and i think she deserves every atom of that beautiful brick :love:
Fraxtin-CrashKedu Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Now thats something that encourages me a lot. Thanks
Fraxtin-CrashKedu Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
And i wish your sister well too
Noirth Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Very motivational! Good job! Bear Emoji-01 (Good job) [V1] 
CutseyPotatoe Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
<333 so weet
Panic-K Featured By Owner Edited Sep 17, 2017
I really like this! The art is good and the message is good. I added this to my favorites as well. :D
Qrow92 Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2017
I feel ashamed that I didn't say anything at first, but I hope it's not too late for me to say I wish her the best and that she sounds like a wonderful person.
She is not only fortunate to have a friend like you, but to have a friend like you who loves her enough to share something like this and bring together so many people with nothing but kind words for her.

Much love and support to you Emma (I'd use her real name if I knew, but I hope Emma is good for now). :heart: :love: :hug:
whatastic Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Did her boyfriend apologize?
Qrow92 Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2017
Sorry about those two comments, they weren't for you. It's just DeviantArt posting my comments to the person under me. DX
whatastic Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh lol ok
MaRoManias Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2017  Professional General Artist
Great piece - thanks for sharing
KangarooWithAKnife Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2017
Dang, not usually a fan of the whole mushy, "aw you're so precious" thing, but I think you did it well, and for a good cause. So props to you, Emma, and nice job. :)
KaosinDK Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017
Wauw that is really brilliant! 8)
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