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GoodBye
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Published: June 17, 2008
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About 5 months ago my future stepdaughters boyfriend killed himself. Since then she's been asking me to shoot a shot about her. She wasn't asking for one about this particular incident but just one about her life...

Well, I had a shot like this that I was never happy with but the idea kept coming to my mind. We were called at about 4 AM by the cops. As long as I live I will never forget her screaming into the phone "what's wrong with him". It still gives me chills.

This is a re-shoot of the original idea. It's for her and for him. 23 years old is too young to die. Life is too precious. What a waste.
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PPGirl16's avatar
PPGirl16|Hobbyist General Artist
I added this to my favorites back in January of 2016 but never really got around to commenting. This piece brought back memories of a tough loss I had myself not too long before.

In September of 2015, a close friend of mine, whom I had known since we were in seventh grade, passed away in his sleep. Like your stepdaughter, I too got the news via a phone call, but it came from a mutual friend of ours. I remember shaking with sobs before breaking down. He, too, was 23 years old.

Receiving bad news is hard, I know, especially through a phone call. I'm not mad at the person who gave me the news; he took it just as hard. Your stepdaughter's loss my be distant now, but the pain of losing someone close never truly dies. I realize this piece talks about suicide, but a loss is a loss. I hope she's doing okay now after almost nine years.

This is a powerful piece, nonetheless. I think anyone who has suffered a tough loss will relate to this, no matter how recent. This piece spoke to me the day I added it to my favorites, because the pain was recent. I'm glad I added it when I did.
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Smoopysmoop|Hobbyist General Artist
Very nice piece of art. That loss is sad...
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1sammyfan|Hobbyist Photographer
I have been staring at this photo for awhile trying to think of something to say as a comment. I can think of nothing that can describe the impact this photo has had on me. However....I am moved to say this:

Your photography seems born of a mind that is highly sensitive to the hurt in the world. Please don't forget about the joy. :iconflowerheartplz:
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aavikkohiekka|Hobbyist General Artist
...made me really speechless for a while. powerful, indeed and so sad. awesome pic, just brings emotions out perfectly.
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EmilyStamp| Photographer
Wow Dave, powerful story and beautiful image as always.
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DeepChrome|Hobbyist Digital Artist
I favorited this a while ago thinking this was a very powerful piece, well-suited to bad news.

After a suicide by someone very close to me, this has taken on a much different perspective. I know some people get the news via phone - which is itself pretty damn rough, but in some ways kinder than seeing the person's body on the ground wrapped around the rifle they shot themself with.

I just wanted to say (now from this perspective) that this really captures quite well the topic of suicides, freak accidents, and other horrible, life-altering news. Thank you for conveying this in a way people who haven't experienced it can grasp.
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karlharker|Hobbyist Photographer
I can see you put your heart and soul into this. That alone is commendable. Brilliant.
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xHXx's avatar
I tried to kill myself 2 times, but didnt have the power to do it, i would hurt to many people, its a selfish act i know that now. Im 17, and the idea of it, just plain stupid
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DeepChrome|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for letting me know that some people in that state can come back from it, that they do see how many people they can hurt by doing it.

The person in my life who just did this to himself...didn't see that. I wish he had.

I hope you can communicate your realization to others who may be thinking what you were, before you changed your mind. :) It may seem like a little thing from others "outside" perspectives, but it's going to mean the world to the person's families to have them still alive, and to that person when they do realize what they would've done to them.

Thank you.
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freedomfighter93's avatar
This piece greatly speaks to me, for I have considered suicide too many times to count. :+favlove:
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Davenit's avatar
Life is way, way, way too precious to want it to end. I'm older, I went through my destructive period when I was younger. I'm so glad I failed. No matter how bad you think life is it's still worth wanting.

Not preaching, just the truth. I'm so glad I'm alive. I hope you feel that way some day.

Thanks

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freedomfighter93's avatar
Thanks for trying to explain it to me :hug:
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Davenit's avatar
stay strong!!!!
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Foxkit69's avatar
That's terrible...
You've captured the sorrow in this.
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rubbernubbers's avatar
this is something all too personal and inspiring for me. good work
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metoikos's avatar
that is a powerful piece of art.
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Kenlidrianian's avatar
This image is made all the more captivating by the sad story behind it. Very poignant.
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that-green-lemon's avatar
very beautiful picture. :+fav:
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shemmie| Traditional Artist
This is very moving. :+fav:
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anja-B|Student Photographer
The photo is really fantastic.
I don`t know how you felt that time,
but I lost my aunt (43 is too young, too) this summer,
it was the first time I heard my dad crying on the phone, when he told me it.
I think it feels maybe a bit similar..
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Midna13's avatar
oh wow...deep meaning and done wonderfully but, wow...
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kissedbyavampire|Hobbyist General Artist
Quite heartfelt and a wonderful picture. Very heartbreaking and meaningful. Got to be one of my favorite here on this site. :heart:

I'm sorry for your loss. :hug:
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Platinum-Roze| Digital Artist
This photo and it's description brought tears to my eyes. Im very sorry for what happened. :(
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