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About 5 months ago my future stepdaughters boyfriend killed himself. Since then she's been asking me to shoot a shot about her. She wasn't asking for one about this particular incident but just one about her life...

Well, I had a shot like this that I was never happy with but the idea kept coming to my mind. We were called at about 4 AM by the cops. As long as I live I will never forget her screaming into the phone "what's wrong with him". It still gives me chills.

This is a re-shoot of the original idea. It's for her and for him. 23 years old is too young to die. Life is too precious. What a waste.
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PPGirl16 Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
I added this to my favorites back in January of 2016 but never really got around to commenting. This piece brought back memories of a tough loss I had myself not too long before.

In September of 2015, a close friend of mine, whom I had known since we were in seventh grade, passed away in his sleep. Like your stepdaughter, I too got the news via a phone call, but it came from a mutual friend of ours. I remember shaking with sobs before breaking down. He, too, was 23 years old.

Receiving bad news is hard, I know, especially through a phone call. I'm not mad at the person who gave me the news; he took it just as hard. Your stepdaughter's loss my be distant now, but the pain of losing someone close never truly dies. I realize this piece talks about suicide, but a loss is a loss. I hope she's doing okay now after almost nine years.

This is a powerful piece, nonetheless. I think anyone who has suffered a tough loss will relate to this, no matter how recent. This piece spoke to me the day I added it to my favorites, because the pain was recent. I'm glad I added it when I did.
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Smoopysmoop Featured By Owner Oct 23, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Very nice piece of art. That loss is sad...
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1sammyfan Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2011  Hobbyist Photographer
I have been staring at this photo for awhile trying to think of something to say as a comment. I can think of nothing that can describe the impact this photo has had on me. However....I am moved to say this:

Your photography seems born of a mind that is highly sensitive to the hurt in the world. Please don't forget about the joy. :iconflowerheartplz:
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aavikkohiekka Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
...made me really speechless for a while. powerful, indeed and so sad. awesome pic, just brings emotions out perfectly.
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EmilyStamp Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2010   Photographer
Wow Dave, powerful story and beautiful image as always.
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DeepChrome Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2009  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I favorited this a while ago thinking this was a very powerful piece, well-suited to bad news.

After a suicide by someone very close to me, this has taken on a much different perspective. I know some people get the news via phone - which is itself pretty damn rough, but in some ways kinder than seeing the person's body on the ground wrapped around the rifle they shot themself with.

I just wanted to say (now from this perspective) that this really captures quite well the topic of suicides, freak accidents, and other horrible, life-altering news. Thank you for conveying this in a way people who haven't experienced it can grasp.
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karlharker Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
I can see you put your heart and soul into this. That alone is commendable. Brilliant.
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xHXx Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2009
I tried to kill myself 2 times, but didnt have the power to do it, i would hurt to many people, its a selfish act i know that now. Im 17, and the idea of it, just plain stupid
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DeepChrome Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2009  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for letting me know that some people in that state can come back from it, that they do see how many people they can hurt by doing it.

The person in my life who just did this to himself...didn't see that. I wish he had.

I hope you can communicate your realization to others who may be thinking what you were, before you changed your mind. :) It may seem like a little thing from others "outside" perspectives, but it's going to mean the world to the person's families to have them still alive, and to that person when they do realize what they would've done to them.

Thank you.
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freedomfighter93 Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
This piece greatly speaks to me, for I have considered suicide too many times to count. :+favlove:
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Davenit Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2009
Life is way, way, way too precious to want it to end. I'm older, I went through my destructive period when I was younger. I'm so glad I failed. No matter how bad you think life is it's still worth wanting.

Not preaching, just the truth. I'm so glad I'm alive. I hope you feel that way some day.

Thanks

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freedomfighter93 Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2009  Hobbyist Writer
Thanks for trying to explain it to me :hug:
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Davenit Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2009
stay strong!!!!
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Foxkit69 Featured By Owner May 16, 2009
That's terrible...
You've captured the sorrow in this.
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rubbernubbers Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2009
this is something all too personal and inspiring for me. good work
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metoikos Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2008
that is a powerful piece of art.
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Kenlidrianian Featured By Owner Nov 28, 2008   Writer
This image is made all the more captivating by the sad story behind it. Very poignant.
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that-green-lemon Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2008
very beautiful picture. :+fav:
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shemmie Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2008   Traditional Artist
This is very moving. :+fav:
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anja-B Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2008  Student Photographer
The photo is really fantastic.
I don`t know how you felt that time,
but I lost my aunt (43 is too young, too) this summer,
it was the first time I heard my dad crying on the phone, when he told me it.
I think it feels maybe a bit similar..
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Midna13 Featured By Owner Oct 3, 2008
oh wow...deep meaning and done wonderfully but, wow...
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kissedbyavampire Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
Quite heartfelt and a wonderful picture. Very heartbreaking and meaningful. Got to be one of my favorite here on this site. :heart:

I'm sorry for your loss. :hug:
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Platinum-Roze Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2008   Digital Artist
This photo and it's description brought tears to my eyes. Im very sorry for what happened. :(
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Scrattt23 Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2008
I had a friend whom as of this month had taken his life afew years ago. Around the same age or so. I never picked up on his hopelessness when he told me that ' I can't shke it , noone cares why should I'. This was at work so I thought it was a usual. Pills. He was a bass player in a new band too. Very intense image, this one, since they found he had dragged himself toward the phone . This is sometimes the case in some cases police deal with. Sorry for your loss. This is a perfect warning to put up as poster in schools or eles where. Your a deep ole soul.
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arturias Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2008
no one knows the pain of death until you walk by the cold feeling of lost, where the idea of a soul vanish ...
your foto is one moment of this feeling...one scream!
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SilentBloodShed Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2008
I feel sorry for him :( but im sure he had some seriouz issuez and probz..poor guy anywayz nice work on the pic :)
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AmayaofChaos Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2008
Very amazing photo. Very powerful.
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photographer-Dreams Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2008
Very Nice ...
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Signe-the-muggle Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2008
It's so clean and beautiful, but with that horrible thing to it. So awesome. :+fav:
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Indigo-Music Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2008
its so creative and beautiful, even though the idea is somewhat disturbing..
my writing has a tendency to be like that so i understand how bittersweet this is.

and my curse number has always been 23..just felt compelled to say that xD

all your work is very inspiring, please keep it up ^-^
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Eskirge Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2008
Really tragic, especially when something can do that one wishes the death.
The image transmits much, it is a great work.
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Danelaw Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2008  Student General Artist
Its so touching, sorry to hear of your loss.
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PinkIsForPunks Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2008
Thankyou....why didn't you tell me you took a picture for me? I just stumbled upon this....
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Davenit Featured By Owner Aug 19, 2008
:-) :heart: Love ya SydneyFace. I miss you very much. :(
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The background story behind this picture made it that much more amazing. Thank you for sharing your work. Condolences to your sister.
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scumdesigns Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2008
amazing shot, such a sad story.
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ElizabethRose-Photos Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2008   Photographer
I'm sorry to hear that =[ this is a beautiful shot
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Zephyr13 Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2008
this seriously gave me a violent flash back to the cover of stephen Kings everything is eventual short story collection.
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Zephyr13 Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2008
oh wow I had been running out the door and didn't read the comment, I am very sorry that happened.
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FuryofaSeraph Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2008
My dad got a phone call when my mom collapsed. I was eight. I still remember being in the basement at the time. I never saw my dad move so fast. It frightened me.
The imagery hit me.
Very well done.
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takun85 Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2008
thank you
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EvilDuckEater Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2008
My bestfriend killed herself in grade eight when she was 12 years old. I can only imagine what was going on in her life that she ended it after such a short time here :( I found out about it on friday the 13th of december. Beautiful shot.
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Katerina423 Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
I just found this.. how did I miss it before. Either way.... I'm sorry Dave, I have no words for you this time. Usually I can find something to say... but this has left me speechless. All I can say is that I'm sending love. :heart:
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Davenit Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2008
Thanks my friend... I hope you're well. :heart: :hug:
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dialac1 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2008
wow dude!!! Thats deep!!! WOW!!!
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kiothoma Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2008
So very powerfull
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Daughter-of-Peneus Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2008
a trajical story but it's a nice photograph..
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Peachymunkie Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2008  Hobbyist Photographer
There are two phone calls that will live forever in my memory...the one from my father when he found my brother who had tried to commit suicide and the one from my aunt when my uncle died. I can still remember those moments so vividly in my mind and, like you, they still give me chills and turn my stomach.

This is a great piece and it has moved me to remember those times when, really, they should never be forgotten.
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Keronu Featured By Owner Jun 27, 2008
This picture gave me chills....Truly touching. I like that it could mean many things depending on the viewer, but the story behind it is really powerful.
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