My 9 year old brother started reading Harry Potter, and he asked me, so earnestly, "Were the Dursley's mean to Harry when he was little?" I hadn't thought much about it before, and he seemed so upset that I totally lied to that little kid. "NO! Of course they weren't." But then I couldn't get young Harry out of my head. There must have been a time before he was resigned to their neglect that he wanted their affection.