Am I wrong to think that reacting to a culturally offensive joke (made in mistake and ignorance not malice) in an aggressive and accusational manner is a bad way to approach the situation? Surely to claim someone is phobic of a culture purely based on a slip up and making them feel attacked is a poor approach and will create a level of disdain that probably wasn't present before?
A situation like this occurred in a group I'm in. Someone made a joke which was arguably inappropriate and another took offense, and had every right to be offended and angry, but then proceeded to verbally attack and condemn the person before they had a chance to respond to the situation. I'm by no means giving a pass to the person who made the joke but am I wrong to believe that, due to their reaction alone, the person who took offense and responded was also in the wrong?
On one hand; This person has a right to be angry but has also done things and made comments in the past which can be argued as taking things too far in the name of 'political correctness' I suppose. Despite them being very politically ignorant in a lot of regards And has offended one of my good friends simply for being a male.
On the other; the person who made the joke hasn't apologised properly as of yet, but has no previously known record within our group for being culturally phobic in the slightest.
I'd like to hear others opinions. This kind of thing stresses me out a lot as I usually end up with people angry at me as I don't side with a particular party and never fully agree with either side for whatever reason. Everyone in a fight is guilty of something right?