Who else is having a terrible time during this pandemic?

I feel suffocated all the time. With a huge feeling of desperation and sorrow. I can't sleep well. Can't concentrate on my job. I'm worried all the time about everything. I'm thinking on getting profesional help, I have tried lots of natural medicine to treat this anxiety and depression I feel, but nothing really works. :(

Any advice? how are you guys doing?

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TYEO's avatar

You have to do something you love to do everyday. It will energize you as well as giving you something to look forward to as well. Despite what the "experts" are saying about this virus, only about less than 1% actually die who get it. Your young and probably healthy. Just conentrate on the things that are important to you and know that like all of us, most things are out of our control all the time anyway. Take care.

KoImprobable's avatar

The thing that's helped me is to focus on doing right all of the things which I can control - washing hands, social distancing, wearing a mask, etc - and accepting that the rest is outside of my control. No matter how much I worry about the things that are outside of my control, I am not influencing those factors, and thus worrying about those factors is a waste of energy. If I get infected, despite doing right all of the things I can control, there was nothing I could do to avoid it.

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My advice - take pleasure in the fact that the pace of the population has slowed down around us - as if we are living a daily early Sunday morning. There is more calm around us, and that calm and serenity provides comfort.

My suggestion: Find that serenity and embrace it.

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Hey Carlos, I am sorry that you feel all this pain and anxity.

I have two major tips for you that really help me getting over all this.

First try to stay away from news in television, radio, news sites or newspapers.

And then try to focus on the small world that is your real life.

Try it out for at least 3 days. No news consumption.

How does it feel?

When I stopped reading news about all this, I was more centered in my everyday life again and I saw that this "pandemic" often exists more theoretically than practically.

I know people that had "Corona", they were over 50 and they are healthy today.

In my town, the everyday life slowly find it's way back to normal. But only because people saw that there is something wrong about it all. The news keep spreading fear every day, they throw numbers at us, but what really happens in your everyday life? Keep an eye on that!

My second tip for you is: connect with nature as often as you can. Walk barefoot on soft grass, lay down on the ground in the sun, listen to the sounds of a small stream or the wind, touch plants and trees (or even speak to them!), go swimming in a river or lake, hiking in the forests or mountains and maybe you'll find a little secret place that is only for you and where you can find a little bit of peace and relaxation.

Wish you all the best! You'll get over it!

I5Spiders's avatar

Gratitude is probably my best medicine. Second would be breathing exercises. Long, deep, purposeful breaths. There's a lot of negative energy behind this "pandemic". I feel it passing though. So hold on to hope and be thankful for everything you've been able to experience in this life.

FougereMarchant's avatar

Sorry to hear you are going through a really rough patch. What helps me: I visit new nature areas every second or third day (some urban and close to my home, others a little further away). I e-mail or phone people that I know are having a rough time. Putting the focus on others has helped me. Getting professional help is a good idea, so follow your instinct on it.

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It's definitely been rough. I suffer anxiety / depression as well and I think getting professional help is a really good choice. Whether it's therapy or medication, doctors would probably be able to help you find a solution that works well for you.

During quarantine, I've found a bit of relief through indoor gardening. Getting to spend little amounts of time on something that changes and grows feels like I'm accomplishing something, and that helps a lot.

Hope you find a plan that works for you soon!

Poses17's avatar

I share a lot of your symptoms, although, fortunately, I'm sleeping well. Getting out for distanced walks helps me, but if you can afford professional help, I'd get it. This is such a difficult time to keep balanced in.

LualaDy's avatar

hi, first of all i'm sorry that you feel so down.

when they started closing everything, I couldn't go to my art studio anymore, so I lost all motivation, and didn't draw at all it was terrible.

but little by little I found other things to focus on

I noticed I'm doing way better with my sewing projects right now, and that makes me really happy because it means I'm one step closer to my me made wardrobe that, surprise, surprise, actually fits my body, and doesn't make me feel bad for not being standard

right now I can go to the studio, I have 1 week left before they close for summer and I'm very happy because I achieved a lot during this comeback period.

to give advice, I should first know some details:

are you living alone?

do you have a garden?

what is your sleeping schedule?

do you have pets?

what's your job about?

what are your hobbies?

do you eat well?

do you practice some sort of sport?

oh, but you don't have to aswer if you don't feel comrfotable, I just don't want to give unappropiate advice.

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I too am doing not so great. I was laid off of work for 2 months and was super stressed about trying to get unemployment and how I was going to pay my bills. Thankfully my student loans were put on hold for a while, and I got my job back, but I am super paranoid about bringing the virus home because all of my family members have really shitty health and a whole bunch of health complications as is. My mom nearly died this year from the regular flu, Covid-19 would certainly kill her, and most likely the majority of my family because of their poor health and preexisting conditions. I only go to work and home, that's it. I have canceled all health/doctor appointments that aren't medically necessary, I refuse to go out to eat, I refuse to go out shopping, etc. I am taking all precautions to make sure I greatly reduce my exposure/risk of contracting and spreading it, because it is literally life or death. BUT at the same time, they are being stupid, and having small get-togethers with their friends, who we have no idea where they have been, not wearing masks and not social distancing when they are over, and I am just like...DO YOU WANT TO GET COVID??!! Because that's how you get it. And I yell at them for it, and their excuse is it's not bad in our area, and their friends have been careful. BUT I am like you still have no idea where they have been or what they do daily. WHY risk it?? Cases are on the rise in our area. People have been asymptomatic. Like this shit is no joke and yet they aren't being as careful as they should be, and I am constantly worried that one day they might just be out shopping, hanging with friends at the wrong place wrong time, and catch it.

Professional help is always a great source to turn to in times of great stress and mental health struggles. I also have bad anxiety, but instead of meds, I use other outlets. I typically pour myself into art or binge playing video games or binge-watch movies, or read books to curb stress. Lately, I am finding I have a bit of an art block, so I have been mostly reading and watching movies. Adult coloring books have also been really helpful, literally makes my mind blank out and focus on what colors I want to fill the designs in with. I have also been swimming quite a bit in our pool. Night swims are the best in my opinion. The water is often warmer than the air and the way the moonlight looks in the water patterns is so pretty.

I hope you are able to get the help you need to put your stress and anxiety at ease. I wish you all the best. Stay healthy. Go forth and stay awesome.

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Have you tried the 4-7-8 breath? The instructions should be online. It's really simple: inhale to the count of 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8 seconds and inhale for 4 seconds, and so on. I do it for 2 to 5 minutes when I get really anxious. I have a digital kitchen timer that I can set to whatever time I want.

I have a psychiatrist who prescribes medications for my schizophrenia (it's a condition that makes me hallucinate and have delusions, and other problems), but the trouble is this doctor is in the same boat as everyone else, and is struggling with motivation and other things too. I didn't find the phone appointments that helpful lately. This being said, it's worth a shot to try a professional. Some doctors and therapists, are really resilient people, and they love helping others.

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Well, my AC is broken in the middle of a heat advisory, so, not great.

That being said, while it may sound trite, have you considered counting your blessings? I find that it does legitimately help to think about the things that are going well for me when I'm feeling frustrated. It doesn't even have to be big things, either. Do you have a roof over your head? There's one thing. More than one change of clothes (which is something few people on this planet actually have, even in this day and age.) There's another blessing. Sometimes, it's the little things you've got in your favor that can make all the difference.

Is this a cure-all to what you're feeling? No. There's no such thing. But it might alleviate some of what your feeling and give you a better grasp of your circumstances, and that can help you in a lot of different ways. It's not a sign of weakness to feel down or anxious, especially in these times, and admitting it takes a lot of strength, so take some comfort in the knowledge that you're able to do something other folks can't.

I don't know what the quarantine regulations are in your area, so I don't know how much you can get out or have other people over to your place, but isolation is something that can do a lot of damage to people, so I'd make sure to take advantage of any opportunity you have to interact with others. Chances are they could use the company, too.

Well, that's all the advice I have, but I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! Hang in there and keep moving forward!

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