Questions for the Men about How Romantic Movies/Books Affect Expectations in Women
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NOTE: I happen to be female, but even I hate so called “Romantic movies and novels” that are, in reality, pornography for lonely housewives and basement dwelling wallflowers.
Q = Questions asked
A= My answers
Let's begin, shall we?
Q: In what ways do romantic books/songs/movies portray men emotionally that do not accurately represent how men think or feel in your opinion?
A. It's because real life human males do not look nor act like physically and emotionally perfect Gary Stu characters written by bored, disenchanted house wives.
In real life, these so-called “Gary Stus in shining armor” would get fed up at these harpies crying misogyny and mansplaining over these guys trying to express their own personal feelings and emotions to these selfish, vain, narcissistic curs, and dump them like rotten harbor trash.
Men are only human gals. They are not Gary Stu Prince Charmings who after to come to your beck and call.
Q. In what ways do romantic books/songs/movies portray men verbally that do not accurately represent how men express themselves?
A. Like how real life human males do NOT EVER speak in purple prose talk. Unless he is a super emo Hot Topic reject that is trying way too hard to sound deep and intellectual, only to come off as pretentious and snobbish to most human life forms, MALE OR FEMALE.
Q: What romantic expectations – or expectations of men – do these forms of media create in women that are difficult for men to meet in real-life relationships/marriage?
A: Like how these men in these stories have to sacrifice their careers, their hopes, their dreams, their identity and hell, perhaps even their lives to please their so-called “Princess Fair” they are in a relationship with.
So basically, Price Gary Stu selflessly keeps on giving and giving, while Princess Fair selfishly keeps taking and taking, without returning any favors in return.
City of Angels (1998): A male angels wants to give up his immortality and his ideal life in heaven, so he can fall in love with a bland human woman.
The Notebook (2004): Two of the male love interests in this contrived love triangle gets their lives, hopes, dreams and what not, ruined by the woman who emotionally toys around with them like a couple of living, inflatable sex dolls.
A Knight's Tale (2001): A “knight in shining armor” puts himself in dangerous, life threatening missions and jousting, just to win the approval of his lady fair's hand in marriage.
Does any of these stories sound romantic to you ladies?
Because to me, they come off as toxic and unhealthy. And keep in mind, I'm a woman too.
SJW feminists keep complaining and crying about movies like Disney's The Little Mermaid, where a female mermaid gives up everything for some hot nookie time with her prince, yet they would find the story to be female empowerment and ideal if Ariel was a merman giving up everything for hot nights in bed with Princess Erica....If that doesn't cry “hypocrisy” and “double standards”, then, what does?
Q: What things seem the most unrealistic about the male characters who are romantic leads in romantic movies/songs?
A: I find the most unrealistic thing about these so called “Romance stories” is that the male love interest never ever questions his girlfriend's authority, and just accepts every single thing she throws out to him, and never questions anything she does.
If he did question his girlfriend's authorities or called her out on things, she starts to mansplain, and cry “misogyny”, and “Chauvinistic pig” over her boyfriend having a mind of his own.
These so-called women in these stories cry and whine over first world problems of their boyfriend having a mind of his own, calling it sexist, while women in Middle Eastern countries are going through hellish real life misogyny and sexism.
Cry me a river indeed.
Q: Have you ever seen a romantic movie where you thought that masculinity was portrayed in an accurate way? If so, what was it that seemed authentic in the portrayal to you?
A: Well, they are not really movies, as they are Japanese manga comics instead.
Try reading My Love Story and The Ancient Magus bride as a cure for the common chick literature.
In My Love Story, a girl gets rescued from being sexually harassed on a subway by a portly, gonk like man, and she loves him for being kind and noble to her, not for his looks nor wealth.
In the Ancient Magus Bride, a male creature known as Elias buys a young woman named Chise out of slavery, because she showed remorse and empathy to her sad, heart breaking plight. He then treats her like a member of his family.
Those are stories I find romantic and touching, not some forced kissy goo goo eyes crap being marketed to women and girls.
Q: What unrealistic expectations of men or what unrealistic romantic expectations do you find that women have (even if not from romantic media).
A: Men are expected to be lean, somewhat muscular, athletically fit, have androgynous facial features and hair styles, have tons of money, have an excellent paying job, sparkle in the sunlight, and devote his entire existence to his maiden fair.
These women with these expectations, on the other hand, do not want their boyfriend expressing his personal thoughts, feelings, emotions, hobbies nor interests that don't cater to them or their interests.
These women (Or should I call them, superficial, vain harpies instead? Because real women like myself do not act this stupid, selfish, shallow, vain, and delusional like these harpies do.) want to be idolized, pampered and adored, just for having an innie instead of an outtie like guys do.
But heaven forbid if men have crushes on female characters or celebrities. A lot of these guys know they will never meet these women, and just joke around and laugh off over their crushes. Yet these harpies get soooooo livid if a man talks about women other than her, or even has lady friends who are just there for a platonic friendship.
These harpies want to isolate these men from what these hags find “triggering” or “offensive”, and hold a double standard that she can go on about wet dream fantasies of fictional male characters. Hell, some of these harpies want to go fifteen steps too far as pressuring their boyfriend to look and act like their imaginary, fictional/celebrity heart throb she has a crush on.
I'm sorry ladies, you cannot have your cake and eat it up too. In order to have your cake, you have to share with everyone, and not hoard it to yourself. That is how equality works.
Q: What things are romantic to men?
A: Mmmmm....I'm guessing what men find romantic, is saving women from horrifying, abusive situations, as well as asking for equality in a relationship, and not having the woman act like a total mooch or a delusional, childish, airhead about their relationship.
Also, real, civilized men love women who can handle themselves and not demand to be pampered and adored like a spoiled princess. They want both parties to give and take equally and not take everything for themselves without saying “Thank you” or giving back in return.
I have a lot of male friends and fans who have been in toxic, unhealthy relationships with the women who like these harpies I mentioned, and my heart goes out to them, as I pray for their recovery from a failed, one-sided relationship.
Hell, it shouldn't only be men with this mindset. Some women, like myself, ask for the relationship I posted in this answer. Not all women are delusional, shallow, selfish,easily offended women children with a baby mentality. Good women exist, as well as good men exist.
You just have to look hard, and not give up on life.
Hell, why does it have to be a romantic relationship? Platonic relationships, like friendships, sibling love and parental love, are also important to both genders. Love is a pretty important emotion. We just have to be there and never give on life. Sometimes, the best happy endings in life, are the endings where you earn the happily ever after, instead of demanding for it.