Oof, so many comments asking to be added! I have a suggestion, if that's okay.
Maybe some users could mistake "note" for "comment" - you could rephrase your "Adding yourself" instructions to say "Send a Note" or "Write a (Private) Note" - maybe include a screenshot snippet of the "Send a Note" button at the top of your page? You could attach this link to it as well: www.deviantart.com/notificatio…
Or write NOTE in all caps everywhere - I don't know!
It's so hard to reinforce rules when you've already got a big "DO NOT POST YOUR BIRTHDAY HERE!" sign above the comments.
I have run some communities/teams and sometimes it feels like people just don't read!! Which I know happens often, and we cannot control it.
Frustrations aside, you're doing great work here for the DA community, and it's a very cool idea. : )
I hope this can continue even once Eclipse hits!
I also have one question: Am I allowed to add someone else's username/birthday to the database via notes? Or do they have to do it themselves?
Thanks! Have a wonderful day/night!