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This is based off this awesome wallpaper --> [link]

I decided to do my own for how I feel. It's going to be a little bit of an explanation, but I shall do my best to answer any questions.

Bigender is the term given to a person when they identify themselves as both male and female; either one, both, or neither at any given time. Someone born one gender (either male or female) will relate themselves as a female some days, and relate as a guy others. It's not a tomboy thing for me. I feel like I'm supposed to be a guy on those days. The way I talk, my temperament, and my interests can change drastically, depending on the day. My female side takes to purses, clothes, colours, and crafting. My male side takes on mechanics, cars, sports, and construction. Some people may say split personality. It doesn't matter. I see myself this way. And I'm comfortable with it.

For those of you who ask, yes, my husband knows about it. He is completely fine with how I identify myself, as I am still in love with him 100%. He is the most wonderful guy I've ever met, and I'm not giving him up. EVER.

Gender changes happen within days or hours of themselves. I could start as a female in the morning and end as a male at night, depending on how the day progresses or how my emotions go. I will say, though, that my guy side often comes out when it's better for my FEMALE side to be out (aka: awkward facial and spa night).

I have always been like this, but I have just recently discovered the term. If you need a more common term, it's transgender. And, yes, I am Christian. No, it doesn't affect my faith. NO, I won't go to hell. Please don't argue this point. It'll only serve to have your comment deleted. This is my personal belief. You can choose to ignore it.

I hope you all understand. If you have any questions, please let me know. Thank-you.
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Herowebcomics Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2018
I am not a fan of this.
There is no male or female feeling!
If you feel grumpy or ready to fight, that is not male.
If you feel more sensitive then that is not female.
Gender is not based on emotions!
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2018  Student Filmographer
Gender is more than just feelings, I agree. However, there is a thing called 'gender dysphoria' which is a real thing. It's pretty common to hear about it now-a-days because of the new awareness we have with transgenders and such. It's a real difference in the brain that doctors have been studying more and more. 

My situation is a brain that is split. It literally works on both hemispheres, right and left, at the same time all the time. My feeling of male and female is linked to that. Often, men work more on the left side of their brains, while women work more on the right side of their brains. The right side is more emotions and empathy, while the left side is more logic and problem-solving. 

There is a 'feeling' of being uncomfortable in your skin, which is a sign of gender dysphoria. You feel like you're living in the wrong body, but only half the time when dealing with bigender. There are only two physical genders, but gender expression/gender identity is a little more complicated than many people realize. I'm not saying there are 60 genders out there, but there are a lot of gender expressions that are real to many people. 

I hope this helps. I hope you have a great day. :) 
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Anyuthaya Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
Excuse me, but what is the difference between Bigender and Androgynous gender? I think I'm androgynous but I don't know if is the same thing as bigender.
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SpockieTheFox Featured By Owner Edited Mar 1, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I have a question. I don't see myself only as female, but also male. Sometimes both. Sometimes just female, and sometimes just male. But I feel no need to dress in male clothing though. Neither do I wear very feminine clothes. I prefer black harem pants and a simple plain tank top or t shirt. If I wear skirts though, I wear ankle long gypsy skirts. When it's summer it's comfortable. It's just that when I feel like a male my clothing choice don't change. I just don't feel that clothing define who I am. I still feel like both, female or male.

I think I do have some body dysmorphia also. I don't like the way I look! I have an ideal female and male self. My ideal female self is more like how I looked when I was younger. My male ideal self have a androgyneous and feminine body type. And looks like Stav Strashko, Emil Andersson, and Jonathan Rhys-Meyers from when he played a role in the movie "Velvet Goldmine".
 
But neither do my personality change when I feel like I should have been a male. I act very gender neutral. Not girly nor masculine. And surgically change gender to male is not something I could do even though I sometimes really wish I were physically a male. It's complicated... Because when I feel like I should have been a male, most of all I wish I could have been like my ideal male self. Same goes for when I feel like a female. I wish I could be like my ideal self as a female.

 Am I bigender?!
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2018  Student Filmographer
Technically, that would be more of a gender-fluid sort of thing. But, it could also be your internal fight between finding your gender identity. Physical gender and gender identity can be two different things, especially with people who have body dysmorphia or gender dysmorphia (which isn't a bad thing, it simply is how the brain works). The biggest thing to remember is that your gender is not your whole identity. And, your gender identity is not something to stress about. 

I have two sides to me, one of which is male and the other is female. I refer to them more as my brain halves, as my male side is logical and rational while the female side is creative and empathetic. Both have their faults, both have their strengths. I believe this is due to the fact that I have Autism, which has been shown to increase the activity on both sides of the brain. While the average person thinks mostly on the right side of the brain (emotions and creativity) and switches to the left when needed for logical reasoning, people with Autism or neurological differences (even different types of mental illness such as anxiety and PTSD) can access both sides of the brain at all times. Because of this, gender identity can be skewed, as gender identity is a mix of our logic and emotions. We can end up in mental battles between what we think is 'logical' and what we want to do. 

For me, I try to leave my gender to the side, instead just enjoying what I like. If I want to be feminine, I'll be feminine. If I want to be masculine, I'll be masculine. I act very gender neutral myself, too aggressive to be feminine but too soft to be masculine. It's an odd combo, though it makes for a great personality apparently. ;) I often wish I could have shapeshifting powers, so I could change into whichever gender I felt like that day. The closest I get is indulging in my favourite clothing and drawing myself as those genders. I highly recommend keeping your original gender if you switch between the genders, as surgery is expensive and difficult on the body. Of course, you can bind your chest on your male days if you so desire, so long as you use safe methods like a licensed chest binder (easy to find, nowadays). 

For you, figuring out your gender identity is all about piecing together your emotions that are tied to your gender and gender identity. It took me some time to really come to terms that I was bigender and bisexual. I don't announce it to the world, but I'm at peace with it. It doesn't change who I am inside. I'm still a wife to a wonderful man, and I'm still a mother of two beautiful children. If I'm a male one day, that's fine. I still have my roles. I don't make it a big deal, and I certainly don't confuse people with needing certain pronouns, as that can only add to the stress in many situations, though I'm from a super conservative family originally so mine don't know about all this. My true identity is...ME. All of me. All my pieces. My gender, my gender identity, my sexuality, my past trauma, my passionate goals, my body, my scars, my stretch marks, my sickness, my talent, my anxiety, my humour...it all goes into what I am. I have discovered so many put all their identity into their gender identity, but that's only depriving yourself of better and greater things. Never lock yourself into one identity. A mind is not just one voice in there, sometimes. Sometimes, you have different "people" in your head, like your male and female side. Depression can be another, as well as anxiety...and your past...and your parents...and anyone else whose words echo in your mind. They are all, in a sense, part of your identity. I'm still coming to terms with past trauma, and I've had to learn how to accept that screaming child that represented my hurting self in the past. I had to learn to be kind to myself and treat myself the same way I would treat someone else. 

Sorry for the essay on the subject. I've grown a lot since drawing this, and I wouldn't mind making a comic or animation in the future to discuss this a little further. I believe people aren't seeing why bigender exists (I believe it's all in how our brains are wired) and that we should come to terms with our gender identity...and let it go. I'm not saying that discovering your gender identity isn't important, don't get me wrong. It's absolutely important and can be all-consuming if we're troubled by it. But, once we've learned what we are, we need to let it go and simply be another fact to us, much like the fact that I have naturally brown hair and brown eyes. I can't change those facts, but I certainly don't go around making 'brunette' my main identity. If I did, I'd be holding myself back to that single thing, nothing else. You can be more than just a gender, which is something I stress because I see too many people cling to that and end up losing sight of important things like empathy and personal growth. I've seen people become malicious because they focus only on their gender and not on the real issues. I speak from experience with one gal who came out as transgender who ended up being bipolar and didn't really take their medication. They were scary to interact with, sometimes. If you focus too much on one aspect of yourself, you can really lose sight of even yourself and how you affect others. 

In the end, the best thing for you is to sort your feelings out with the gender identities and grow from it. I learned my male side came out when I needed to feel strong, especially when dealing with past traumas. My female side was strong when I felt the need to be compassionate or gentle. The male side got things done. The female side dealt with the emotions. Once I figured out what was wrong there, I dealt with the emotions, and the gender identity crisis faded. I'm no longer in turmoil, and I don't feel a constant war with my gender identity. I'm simply who I am, regardless of if I feel male or female that day. I'm just me. I'm biologically female, but my identity depends on which half of my brain is speaking louder that day. 

Again, I apologize for the essay of a reply. I hope it doesn't overwhelm you. I really hope you can figure out your gender identity. It's alright to not pick just one. I just encourage people to just add it to part of their identity. :) Like I said before, I'm bigender and bisexual, so I know how hard it can be to not know which you are. Hugs to you and lots of love. :hug: 
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SpockieTheFox Featured By Owner Edited Mar 2, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you Hug I couldn't sleep last night. The way I experience things is that I sometimes get this transexual feeling. Last night I could not sleep. I felt I was in the wrong body. How I wished I were biological a male! I still feel like that right now. It's different from time to time how long this feeling lasts. 

Quote: Bigender (bi+gender) or "bi-gender" is a gender identity that encompasses two genders, whether at the same time or at different times.

I do feel like both female and male. Sometimes just female, and sometimes just male.

But the thing is besides being bigender, I have ways I see myself as female and male. Ways I wish I were. Like how I look for example. Even if I had not been bigender, I'd still have a body dysmorphia where I'm not 100% happy with how I look. Body dysmorphia is just someting I have besides being bigender. I think that's how I experience things. I've felt like this long enough, but I'm just starting to try and understand things.

I do suffer from a lot of traumatic experiences in my childhood and early adult years. I also suffer from CFS "Cronic Fatigue Syndrome". I spend a lot of time indoors. But my male side, I imagine him like a guy with hair below the shoulders. He wears baggy pants, always on his skateboard or rollerblades, and are the surfer type. It's just that with all the bullying, trauma, social anxiety and depression, and also my exhaustions I prefer just living a calm life at home. Sometimes go out around the neighbourhood in the sun. Spending time with my family and my best friend.
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2018  Student Filmographer
Sorry to hear you couldn't sleep! How're you feeling today? 

If you honestly feel either female or male, or even sometimes both, that definitely sounds like bigender. So, I would say you'd be bigender. Transexual feelings of feeling in the wrong body are pretty common with bigender people. Gender dysmorphia or gender confusion is very common after trauma, and it sounds like you've dealt with a lot in your life. I can totally relate. I grew up with social rejection, a heavily sheltered childhood, and untreated Autism my whole life, and I've learned that the way we see ourselves is heavily influenced by how we felt we were perceived. I felt like I was rejected because of who I was, for the little quirks that made me who I am. And, truth be told, I was. I still struggle with my gender some days, especially when I feel feminine but have this tiny thin body that looks like a feminine boy. I used to be really feminine looking, and that helped when I felt feminine. But, now, I struggle with just keeping any weight on, and I look like a skeleton in my eyes. I am underweight because of severe IBS (most likely Crohn's or Colitis, but the doctors here are rather useless for chronically ill patients) and spend most of my time indoors because of my lack of food and fibromyalgia. 

It does take some time to come to terms with our gender and gender identities. It didn't take me until I was 26 to really figure it out for sure. And, some days, I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. I totally get that. Sometimes, we even come up with "personas" in our minds that become our genders. That's sort of what my male and female side are. But, personas aren't fake, don't get that wrong. Personas are literally just the faces we put on with each situation. When I talk to kids, my persona is entirely different than when I'm talking to my friends. And, my persona is different in public than it is at home. I hide a lot of my autistic traits while in public, and I go back to my usual persona at home to feel at rest. Gender is a little like that, where we have the two personas that we have in our minds. I mean, you have an image of what your gender sides look like. And, your male side sounds like he's very different from your female side in terms of anxiety, am I correct? It's similar to when I felt male. Those were the times I needed to do things, and it was when I wanted to feel confident in myself. Part of my issue was I felt I had failed as a female when I had so much trouble with my pregnancies. My first pregnancy had ended in a missed miscarriage (I didn't know I'd miscarried until 6 weeks after the death), and my second pregnancy ended with a C-Section birth. I couldn't breastfeed my baby though I fought hard with medication and every tactic on the market. I felt I failed as a woman. So, why be a weak woman when I can be a strong man? That was my thinking until I sorted those feelings out between my genders. I don't even notice my gender most of the time, now. And, it's because I dealt with the past pain that was linked to why I felt like I needed to be that male instead of female. Helping anxiety and depression really does help with the gender confusion. I might feel out of place in my body about once or twice a month at most now, instead of every other day. I found a lot of help from watching YouTube videos and challenging my own mind about my reality...and separating myself from past hurt. But, I'm not a counsellor, so I don't know what you've done in terms of positive or affirmative thinking for yourself. I do a lot of self-validation, where I say "it's okay that you're feeling like this. It's just how you feel. It's okay that you feel like this." I think you could use a little bit of extra self-validation for yourself. :heart: It doesn't mean we allow ourselves to do harmful behaviours, but it lets us not hate ourselves for what we feel. When we deal with the anxiety attached to our feelings, such as the anxiety or self-consciousness when you switch genders, it can really help with the gender confusion. 

One thing I want to ask about your CFS. My husband had terrible CFS when he was younger, and he discovered it had been a mercury poisoning from the fillings in his teeth. The composites from the fillings leaked into his system, and he had to get all new fillings with the new composites that are safe. I'm just curious if you've had your heavy metal levels checked? My husband still has some CFS, but it's significantly better after clearing his system of the mercury. I'd get that checked out at least, to help out with your health. I know what it's like to have poor health and how hard it can be to find a cure or any sort of fixes. I just know that's what happened with my husband, and he had severe CFS that every other doctor kept treating as depression. I know how annoying it can be to hear "try this" or "have you done this". But, not a lot of people know about mercury poisoning from things like dental fillings and canned tuna (not good for CFS anyway, too much mercury on a poor immune system). I really hope that your CFS can get figured out so you can work to either fix it or at least better it. :heart: Also, have you tried melatonin to help regulate your sleep cycle at night? It can at least help you get to sleep, and I use it all the time to help (though it's not a for-sure thing, as I still had insomnia last night since I'm not on my sleep medication for a few days to reset my body's tolerance for it). I really hope you can find some things to help you with your health. :heart: 
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SpockieTheFox Featured By Owner Edited Mar 4, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I feel much better today :) Today I feel more like the usual me with my female and male sides. Yes my male side is very different from my female side. It's how I see and wish my male side to be. But because of my medical condition and also my social anxiety, and traumatic scars from my past I have no way of being able to live out my male side.

I have ADHD. I have had a psychological evaluation. The psychiatrist axtually did wonder if I also have Aspergers. So I have this to deal with as well. I was bullied for many years of my life. I first started to get bullied when I was 9 years old. 16 years of daily bullying I went through. I was a social outcast. My mother told me it is not so unusual for a person with ADHD to sweat more than others. Both my parents have ADHD and have problems with heating up and sweating. And I got it many times worse than them. My family and relatives was always good to me. But at school, work and outside of work I was treated like a living disease. I was sweaty and had bad BO. No matter what I did nothing helped... I have been bullied so badly that most people if they were me would have ended up committing suicide! Imagine going through this daily for 16 years!! I've never wanted to die though. But today luckilly I don't have that BO anymore. I still heat up faster than normal but at least I do not smell that bad anymore. People talk to me and sit next to me on the bus now.

I am certain my CFS diagnosis is caused by all the bullying I experienced. I've read that you can end up with CFS because of bullying and what bullying does to ones body.

I wasn't sure if I should mention it because not everybody believe in paranormal activity. I'm usually careful with bringing it up because people use to laugh at anyone who have had such experiences. But you mentioned that gender dysmorphia or gender confusion is very common after trauma. I din't want to leave anything out.

It is also a very big part of my past. We lived in a place with old medieval churches and ruins, and many old houses. It started haunting in my childhood home when I was 11 years old. We lived in a block apartment. The haunting keept on for many years though, but 2 months after it started I collapsed in the snow oneday and was brought to the hospital where I was diagnosed with the deadly blood disease "Aplastic Anemia". Untreated I would have died. I spent 1.5 years at the hospital and went through chemotherapy and bonemarrow transplant. My then 6 years old sister were the donor. I stopped feeling hunger and got so thin that I had to be fed through a tube. But today I have more fat on my body than what I like. I wouldn't say I'm that big. I weigh 142lbs, but I hate how worn out and ugly my body have gotten from all the depression. I haven't been able to take care of it because of both my depression and CFS exhaustions.


Together with my little brother and also my childhood friend I experienced paranormal activity in our home. The experience scarred me an my brother for life. We are both adults, but today we still struggle because of what we saw and experienced. We can't handle to be alone at night even though we are adults. The littelest sounds brings us back to that time. Now in my adult years the times where I have been alone at night in my home, I can't get my self to sleep because I'm too scared. It get's traumatic when I go to bed and turn off the lights. I can't handle the silence, and every little sound scares me.

Our neighbours confirmed what me and my brother had experienced in our childhood. My mom told me after she had a chat with the neighbour, so it was not just something we had imagined!
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NekoAlan Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2018
Hola, I like this character, because it really has an excellent design, I am fascinated that is a woman with dark or medium dark skin/white or brown skin (similar to walnut, wood, pearl or similar to mineral tones), I love the colors of the suit , hair, eyes, ornaments and pose is very sensual/flirty and very provocative, the feeling I have for her, is to know even more about who he really is.
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2018  Student Filmographer
Um...what? 😶 Are we looking at the same picture?
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Hikaro-Takayama Featured By Owner Sep 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Hi, Since I've fairly recently decided to become more active on my DeviantArt account, I'd like to say that I'm a bi-gender Christian as well (only AMAB instead of AFAB), and this pic really spoke to me when I was finally coming to terms with my identity after fighting it for almost 25 years (I knew I felt like I was a boy half the time & a girl the other half at least as early as 10 years old), and this pic really spoke to me (except when I flip to my female side, I'm WAAAAAAYYYYY girlier than the woman pictured on the female side of the image, like almost Disney Princess level of girly).

I just wanted to take the time to properly thank you for making this, since it really helped me realize my true self (I've even been going out in public as Luara over the past year, ever since my toxic, transphobic wife left me last May).
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student Filmographer
Thank-you for the wonderful comment! :heart: I'm glad to hear that it's helped you. It means so much to hear that it's helped someone come to terms with their identities. Gender can be so confusing, especially when there is such a difference between our physical gender and the gender expression that is in our minds. :heart: I hope that things continue to get better for you in the future. :love: God bless, and good luck with everything! :hug: 
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Hikaro-Takayama Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks for the reply! :)  One thing I wanted to add was that I seem to be rather fortunate when it comes to my gender-flips:  I usually flip only like once a month (although sometimes I skip a month & I don't know why), which means that my gender identity tends to be stable for most of the month (or two on the rare occasions when I skip the usual flip time).

Although that comes with it's own issues, particularly those times when I go 2 months in a row as a particular gender:  I tend to begin wondering if I really am bi-gender and not actually just a feminine cisgender guy/transgender woman towards the end of the second month, lol.

There also seems to be a strong biological basis for my gender flips/identity:  I'm 99% sure I have either Klienfelter's Syndrome (XXY chromosomes instead of XX or XY) or Mild Androgen Insensitivity Disorder (body is somewhat resistant to Testosterone) since they both have symptoms similar to what I have, and are both classified as intersex conditions, despite people who have them appearing to be completely male.
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2017  Student Filmographer
I can understand the confusion when it comes to the longer stretches. The longer you stay constant, the more 'normal' it can feel. It happens the same with me and my health. I have unstable health due to a chronic illness, and when I have a lot of good days in a row, it can make me think I don't have a health condition. THEN, it flares back up, and I'm reminded that yes, I have a chronic illness. 

It's a little like you. You have to remember you personally have a flip in your brain for your gender. Not everyone does, but some people do, especially if there are medical reasons for the wiring in the brain. Have you ever been tested for the chromosomes or androgen insensitivity? I'd definitely get it tested for the future, as those can both carry long-term effects if left untreated. I wouldn't want you to end up with complications in the years to come. If you don't have them, there's also the idea of your brain just literally being wired a little different. That's the thing with me. I have Aspergers, which means a literal change in how my brain works. It's physically different, with different areas in my brain fired up all at the same time. So, that could be another physical reason for your gender switching. But, that just explains where it comes from. How you deal with it matters the most. I think not making a huge deal out of it and simply allowing it to happen is the best way. Go with the flow, right? :) 
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candystarfish Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2017
Hi! I love this image :D I actually used it as my bigender definition picture on my about my identities page: jayleejames.com/dictionary-of-… <3 I linked you, so I hope that's ok?
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2017  Student Filmographer
That's perfectly fine! :) Thanks for crediting me. That's fantastic! I gave it a read, and it's some really neat things you wrote there. :highfive: Keep being awesome at life! :)
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9fanforever9909 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I may identify as a different gender identity and expression that what I was born with, and I'm nervous with what God thinks. I'm a Christian, too.
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Oct 13, 2016  Student Filmographer
It can be something very tricky to figure out, but here's how I see it. 

I truly believe that the intent in your heart and your actions speak to God far more than words or thoughts. If you seek out to hurt someone or use someone selfishly for your own gain (be it emotional, physical, sexual, etc), then God will condemn you. People have stolen things before, but they stole them for pure reasons: to feed their family. I truly believe, in my heart of hearts, that God doesn't care about our actual gender. So long as we're doing what we can to feel like people so we can honour Him better, then do so. :) If being a different gender is how you set aside your cares and can praise God the most, then do it. God cares about how you treat others, or how you speak with others. If you were going around telling people they were stupid for 'being the same', then...yeah. That'd be bad. But, you identify as a different gender, and you express it in an appropriate way. If you dress up in clothing of the opposite gender, do so in the appropriate times. :) 

My biggest belief in this is that I believe God much prefers transsexuals, gays, and lesbians over the cheaters, adulterers, and those who general have no regard for the people around them. He loves those who sin, yes. He loves people in general. But, that certainly doesn't mean they won't get judged. But, honestly think it's more about the intent and our thoughts and feelings...as well as common sense. Don't go dressing up in a ball gown to work, right? (some people have done similar things to 'get a point across'). 

Sorry if this was a bit of a post. I hope I explained it well. :)
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Plain-Jane-dopts Featured By Owner Jul 8, 2016
Ahhhhhh it feels so GREAT to find another Christian who isn't cisgendered <3

I myself am a Demi-Girl Christian and get so much flack for being trans* and Christian. It's like people suddenly expect me to stop believing in the thing I've believed my whole life because I found out the term to how I've felt about myself for as long as I can remember.

I'm so glad your husband is supportive! Best of luck on with life dear <3
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2016  Student Filmographer
Best of luck with life to you, too! :heart: Yes, it can be hard to be Christian and anything other than "straight". There's nothing wrong with being straight, but there's nothing wrong with being gay/lesbian/bi/trans, either. :) I have had other people tell me I can't be Christian and believe that, but I think Christ was leaning toward "love and tolerate" rather than "follow these rules". 

Glad that this piece is getting a lot of love. :) A lot of people have appreciated this piece! I think I need to make another one in the future. 
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Lovethelieyoulive Featured By Owner Mar 15, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Found this a while ago, glad I traced it back to you. ^-^
Captures the meaning perfectly, as does your description.
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Mar 15, 2016  Student Filmographer
Thanks! :) I'm glad it helps people! I did a lot of research to figure out what everything meant, and this is truthfully how I feel many times. ((it often depends on my stress levels, as I often turn male when I'm highly stressed, oddly enough)). 
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Kacpers Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
I thought that I'm bigender, but now I don't know. It's like I feel like girl in 80-90%, but I'm not transgender. If I have to be a man, I can live as man, but I still want to be a girl all the time (it's not changing). Eh, identity problems...
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2015  Student Filmographer
I'd say it's a little more gender fluid than anything. :) Gender can be a tricky thing to figure out, since we also go through phases when we hit puberty and our toddler years (hormones).
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Kacpers Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
I don't think so, because it's not changing. I mean, all the time I feel the same. I feel two different genders in the same time, but it's not mixing, like in gender fluid.
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2015  Student Filmographer
Well, gender fluid isn't always moving, or moves a lot. It depends on the person. Bigender is usually an either/or sort of feeling, not normally a both thing. But, it's certainly something to look into. I found lots of awesome things online by looking up gender identities. :) 
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Kacpers Featured By Owner Edited Jun 17, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
I still think, that that's not it. Because (like i said) it not mixes. I feel the same all the time, but I'm not feel between two binary genders. I mean, I can deside how I act outside, but I can't act manly to long, because it hurts (I'm physically male, so I need to act manly only, if necessary). And I don't really know if it can happen when I'm acting girly, because i never acted girly long enough. I feel that I want to be a girl, but I don't know for sure (because I never was a girl). I will try to find somethink myself (but I really hate reading all these long and compicated articles of wikipedia).
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ShimmerWolfArts Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Student Digital Artist
THANK YOU I AM ALSO A BIGENDER CHRISTIAN
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Student Filmographer
Always a pleasure to meet another Christian who understands gender and/or sexual equality! :) 
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ShimmerWolfArts Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Student Digital Artist
ikr?? My girlfriend is bisexual and a Christian too!! It's like, just cuz we're lgbtqia+ doesn't mean we can't be Christians
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Student Filmographer
It bothers me when people think that it's not an equal relationship. I feel it's WAY better than MANY heterosexual relationships, since a lot of them end up in divorce and cheating. I say that so long as it's monogamous and pure (not just for the sex but for the person themselves, whatever gender it is), then it's a good relationship, and God loves those relationships.

I don't like going into politics, since too many people get angry about it, but I feel that most 'Christians' stay too old-fashioned. It says nothing definite about homosexual relationships in the Bible (ESPECIALLY in the New Testament, which is where everything we believe in now comes from), so it's something that I feel strongly in that we should be staying open to. We grew to accept interracial relationships, which at one point were very illegal. It was also very well known to have slaves, so should we go to that just because the Bible talked about it positively in the Old Testament?

Being a Christian means we show the light of God to the world and show the world LOVE. We want people to COME to Christ, not feel like they need to LEAVE it (I've met TOO many atheists and agnostics because they were raised too strict and judged). I actually don't even go to church, anymore, because of how judged I was for being a pastor's daughter. I was expected to know my Bible inside and out, to be perfect, and to show everyone how wonderful it was to be a 'good Christian girl'. In reality, I listened to Linkin Park, I HATED church because of the things people said about my parents and brothers (my brother loves tattoos and expressed himself with his hair, and no one liked that, even though his tattoos were appropriate for general settings), and I was depressed. I wasn't a happy-go-lucky girl in reality. I HATED that town, and I HATED going to church. All I ever heard from those people was gossip and criticism. 

I love people from all places of the world. I have friends who are transgender, gay/lesbian, asexual, Muslim, atheist, and all sorts of other things. Some of the coolest, nicest, most understanding people are from the places that 'Christians' judge the hardest. 

Sorry for the long post! Haha! I have a lot of feelings toward this area and the people associated in it. :) 
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ShimmerWolfArts Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Those words basically sum up my feeling on the matter. XD

My dad isn't a pastor, but he's like... He thinks being non cis or non straight is a sin when God never said that. It was a human that said that being non straight was a sin so...

And Jesus taught to love everyone, so it's like, why don't many Christians follow that teaching??
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Student Filmographer
SO nice to see people who are more open. :) Jesus Himself was more open to other people (tax-collectors, prostitutes, thieves, etc.), so why shouldn't we be more open to other people ourselves? I mean...even if we used their logic and determined that homosexuality and other gender identities were wrong...HOW ABOUT ACCEPTING THEM AND BRINGING THEM INTO THE CHURCH SO YOU CAN TEACH THEM RIGHT INSTEAD OF SHUNNING THEM OR JUDGING THEM? HMMMMM!? 

By judging and telling someone to change because of something that they have no idea about (ie: God), then you're telling them 'we think you're inferior and will do anything to make you into what we feel is equal to us, but only if you do everything we say how we say it'. Instead, what would ACTUALLY work, if they wanted to change people, is accept them in as they are and teach them through example and through facts and the word of the Bible that there IS a way that things are meant to be. 

Of course, there isn't anything that I've EVER felt was meant to be about homosexuality, since the verses around it usually said something that contradicted it. But, with other issues, I feel it's better to accept the reality (even if you don't APPROVE), and be a good person to help GUIDE the person instead of making them feel bad and making them raise their defences. You know? If they REALLY want to change people, do it in the best way possible and not in the way that causes people to hate the whole Christian community, you know?

Again...I have a lot to say on this. Haha! I could probably write a BOOK on it! :XD: 
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ShimmerWolfArts Featured By Owner Jun 14, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Lol yeah you probably could write a book on it XD

What really makes me mad though is when they send homos or trans people to like therapy to try to "coach it out of them" or something. It's like, you can't coach someone's gender or sexuality into something different. Sorry, but that's not how it works. From what I hear, those therapists only put the homo or trans down in attempts to make them feel bad about being that way. That's not therapy, that's bullying!

holy crap it's 4am what an I doing up??
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jun 14, 2015  Student Filmographer
Haha! I totally know the 4 AM thing! :XD: 
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fennec-foxx Featured By Owner May 26, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm curious - is there a difference between bigender and genderfluid, or are they just two different terms for the same thing?
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner May 26, 2015  Student Filmographer
Actually, bigender means you're either/or. Genderfluid means you go up and down a spectrum. Think of a 0 being female and a 10 being male. Genderfluid means that you might feel more female one day, more male another day, and some days both or neither. Bigender is an either/or, but not usually a both or neither situation.
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fennec-foxx Featured By Owner May 26, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Okay, thanks for clarifying!
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XbinaryBrwnfanartist Featured By Owner May 14, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for educating us on your gender. I'm binary transgender male so I have trouble thinking about other identities in between, and with so much noise on the internet it's very easy to fall into the trap of 'oh, the others are just gender expression'. But hearing what it's like from an actual bigender person is very informative and clears the air a lot, and I won't fall into that exclusionist thinking. Thank you again! <3
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner May 14, 2015  Student Filmographer
:) You're very welcome. A lot of people don't understand the spectrum, but there is a definite spectrum of gender and gender identity. I've met people who are feminine but male (and straight), I've met girls who are VERY masculine but are happy with being female...and then other girls who are feminine but want to be guys and vice versa. It's a really interesting thing, gender identity. :) 

Glad I could help someone understand better! 
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XbinaryBrwnfanartist Featured By Owner May 15, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah, the spectrum is complicated and colorful. : ) Yeah, feminine males aren't always gay, Some girls will bite your head off if you mistake them for males. Just one thing about the last part though--us genetic females don't 'want' to be guys and genetic males don't want to be girls. We are already who we are--want implies that transition for us, whatever that means to the individual, is optional.

I tell you that the female part of my brain has always been defunct, a useless vestige of my DNA, but nothing else. I can imitate stereotypes of women and girls, I can look like what another individual might find attractive, or I can even try to be a masculine woman. But none of it fits for me, and I always have to think about it, calculate it. Whereas I don't have to think about being a man/male. It's absolutely automatic. 

But I guess it's a lot less clear to bigender and other non-binary people, so we (always trapped in the wrong body), should recognize the validity and experiences of other people, who aren't always trapped in the wrong body.
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ShinPersonaMaster Featured By Owner Apr 6, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Good picture. :)
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BritsSketches Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2015  Student General Artist
I really don't know what I define as, but this is a great illustration to portray something close to me, but not quite.. But nonetheless, I love it Heart Love 
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2015  Student Filmographer
Well, thank-you! :)
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RainbowKilljoyPony Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow I love this! Good work
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TheWolfsFirstWinter Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
An amazing way to put it!
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CrazyTarget-101 Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
iwasnotawarethattherewasawordforthisohmygodinowhaveanidentity
iusuallyjustsaidmygenderwasidontgiveafuck
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2014  Student Filmographer
OMGIamsohappyIcouldgiveyouanidentityIstruggledwiththisforawhileandI'msohappyIcoulddothisforyougoodluckandthanks!!!
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Vyctorian Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2014   Digital Artist
Excellent work!~
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BethanyAngelstar Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2014  Student Filmographer
Thanks! :) Glad ye like it!
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