I got this as a question on my Tumblr, and I felt I could share my thoughts here as well because it seems it's something a lot of people can relate to. I hope this comes to helpful to any of you guys reading.

I’m certain there are people who dislike me. Some I come to know through whisperings because I have eyes everyyyyywheeeeere.

However, I don’t feel the need to acknowledge them or do anything about it unless they are causing any real harm, especially to people I care about.

There is a popular quote that I like referencing for this topic, which gets the message across in a charming way:

“You can be a juicy, ripe peach and there’s still going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches, so you can either submit to someone’s criticism of you, or you can get on with the business of being your own amazing self who attracts other like-minded people that appreciate you.” — Dita Von Teese

I used to be affected if I found out someone didn’t like me, but I’ve come to learn that people can have very irrational reasons for hating someone.

Sometimes it is simply because your personalities and tastes are not compatible. And that’s fine and normal. 

Other times, they can take a part of you and twist it and build up their own negative perception and convince themselves that they are right to hate you. But it doesn’t mean that what they think about you is true. Their image of you that they force upon themselves could be due to their own insecurities.

Although I sometimes say this jokingly, I find that in certain cases it’s not just simply “Haters gonna hate.” I also dislike it when people jump to the conclusion, “They just hate you because they’re jealous.” While it can be true at times, it’s not the ultimate answer. Let’s be real here. It is not surprising for people to feel a sense of dislike towards someone who is truly being a terrible human being. Did you do something that merits you being considered a terrible human being? If the answer is no, then good.

Here’s what you can do: If someone openly throws some harsh words at you, take a deep breath and try to objectively consider what they have to say. Maybe you can ask yourself things like:

Are they actually trying to offer constructive criticism but are  lacking in tact and eloquence? If they seem interesting or intelligent enough, try to converse with them to understand. Maybe you’ll learn something new. If they are just bigots or trolls, pity them for a second, don’t dignify them with an answer or any more of your time, and move on. Be the better person.

 Are they pointing out something you may have done wrong that you weren’t aware of? Do you think they are right? If they are, be humble enough to consider that you might have something to improve on. If they’re not, then just don’t mind them. If someone is really set on disliking you, you’re the last person they will allow to change their minds.


These are just general ideas, because it always depends on the context. But in the end, what’s important is that if you truly believe you did nothing wrong, then disregard them and walk away with your head held high. Hopefully you aren’t a sociopath.

You can’t please every single person in the world. And that’s okay. The people whose happiness and opinions should matter the most are your own, and those of the people you care about and care for you. If you focus on being your own fantastic self, you can feel sorry for your haters because they lost the opportunity to get to know the wonderful person you are.

Earlier this year, my friends and I were invited to be overseas guests for HobbyCon in Sabah, Malaysia.


Time flew by very fast, and before we knew it...


Our first day was spent doing a lot of eating, thanks to our guide Alyssa I will justify it as us fueling up for an action-packed weekend! We tried nasi lemak for the first time (LOVED IT), had some shaved ice desserts after, then a big dinner of clay pot rice, stir-fry noodles with clams, really tasty chicken wings, etc. and THEN we still raided Pick N' Pay for our midnight snacks because we love convenience stores and we wanted to try things we don't have in Manila.

We planned our cosplays ahead with Team Kachang Puteh, the guests from Singapore. Our theme for the first day of HobbyCon was Shingeki no Kyojin!


Miguel - Eren Jaeger
Jin - Mikasa Ackerman
Dom - Jean Kirschtein
Kitska - Levi
Tessie - Hanji Zoe

By our powers combined, we became TEAM MEGADERP


Here we are being totally OOC with the fabulous jnalye


We at least tried to stay in character for the Cosplay All-Stars March!

We prepared a little skit for our walk. The three of us new recruits started out marching behind Levi and Hanji, and Eren would run ahead of them when we were near the front. Levi disapproves of Eren's lack of discipline and kicks him down.

We heard that the main sponsor was watching up front and thought that Miguel/Eren was kicked down for real. Much to his shock and further confusion, the crowd cheered and snapped a lot of pictures. We are not always in character, but when we are, maybe we are a little too convincing? Whoops!


Another angle. Look at all the happy sadists in the crowd! Kidding!


There were so many people that the barricades were bending. We had never done anything quite like the All-Stars March so that was pretty cool albeit nerve-wracking!


Our kick reenactment on the news!


After us came the 501st Legion. So cool! Our course they played The Imperial March!


While the crowd took pictures of us, I snuck a quick snapshot of them too


I find Stormtroopers really cute for some reason


The day's most popular pose!


MEGAMIIIIIIII


Jean and Eren getting along for once
Yes Jean, you can be a fanciful unicorn too
Eren is on his invisible bike, copying the monkey at the back


Heichou is enjoying the show


With Belle Annachuu as Xiaoyu, our friend from another dimension apparently


I'm always nom-ing her hair doughnuts

After taking pictures with people at the photo wall (I haven't seen a lot from there and I remember we had a bunch of funny photos because we got a lot of funny requests — please send me our pics if you were one of the people who went up there with us! ) we headed up to the holding room to rest. And then Alyssa left some extra maid outfits from the maid cafe and then...


Eren is blackmailed into wearing one of them. Here he is doing a gravure pose while the process is documented. For science.


Much kawaii
Wow


Eren is starting to feel it while heichou continues to deny his true feelings


Pimp Daddy Mikasa


I pimped our photo with stickers to make the description more accurate
Mikasa's girls are top dollar yes good
Heichou is like, "Eren, please, you're embarrassing yourself. That headband doesn't go with that coordinate. And put on some blush, your complexion is so dull."


Can you handle this colossal level of moe


Mikasa taking upskirt shots


Hanji joins in. For science.


Heichou wa Maid-sama onstage performance!


That evening we went back to the hotel and prepared our costumes for the next day. The way we arranged our things is kind of in-character I guess. Hahah!


Second day of HobbyCon! We are Free!
Kitska - Haru
Tessie - Rin
Miguel - Makoto
Jin - Nagisa
Dom - Rei


Annachuu is our special buddy, Jack Frost!
a.k.a. drowned Nitori
He froze our pool


Squeezing more and more people in the photo! Now with Abi!
Also, Belle is getting revenge for me nom-ing her head during the previous day


Sorry but I am going to continue nom-ing Jack Frost like an icy dessert


I snapped this photo of them and ran it through an app...


This is what I looked like while brewing evil things
And everyone was going HEY JIN WHY IS YOUR FACE ALL RED WATER WHAT ARE YOU DOING

I was using the SwapTeleport app and this is what happened:

brb crying


HAHAHAH I'M SO DONE


Group photo with my chubby penguinnnn


Lots of people wanted to kidnap my pinggu


"REI-CHAN! REI-CHAN! PUT THIS ON! Rei-chan, you're a... Rei-ndeer!!"

I also told Haru
"HARU-CHAN! HARU-CHAN! Are you excited because we're going to SABAh?"

The perks of being Nagisa
I can say things like this
I guess we're more alike than I thought


Commemorative purikura for Rei-channnnnnn!


Haru-chan activates yaoi hands for 3-person selfie


Rin-chan does not like to share


Went downstairs to watch The Hikaru Band perform since we noticed they played classics like songs from Rurouni Kenshin and Slam Dunk. When we got there, they played The Beginning by ONE OK ROCK (RuroKen live action theme song) and we FREAKED OUT. So awesome!


Spirit animal butts display


They also played a childhood favorite, Extreme Ghostbusters!
(Secret cosplay want)


And GO GO POWER RANGERSSSSSSS


At this point we couldn't help running up to the front to properly rock out with the band

For their last song they played... GUREN NO YUMIYA
And we were all like


ACCEPT OUR WORSHIP
AND ANIMAL OFFERINGS


Of course, during the appropriate times there was a resounding, unified yell of
"JAEGER!!!!!"


After getting all sweaty from the adrenaline rush of the performance, we went back around the outside of the VIP area


We were asked to pose for pictures, and we got to hang out a bit with people in the crowd


Shingeki no Free!


Heichou gave us a poster!


Blondies and pingguuuu


Tux Team with Tuxedo Mask!!


We made Yuna LOL because I was like OK I'M TIDUS
And then Makoto and Rei are posing like FFX-2 Yuna


We did a discussion and tutorial on cosplay makeup, and how it helps make you look like different people


Showing examples of Miguel's cosplay vs. crossplay. The reactions were priceless!


The setup was very relaxed and comfortable, so we didn't feel as nervous as usual about speaking onstage.


Part of the enthusiastic crowd!


For some reason, Rin-chan and Haru-chan changed into dresses


Jeez, Rinrin stop crying all the time


From our holding room on the second floor, we had a good view of the event hall because the wall was glass. We saw this bride Eren being proposed to by all the heichous.


The glass didn't hide us so people could see us and wave and pose when I held up my phone


They also made hearts at us, d'awww


Tekken Tag Tournament live battle! This was super exciting!


Haru-chan, please contain yourself


Onstage again for the panel! This time we shared the stage with Tessie and Kitska of Kachang Puteh and awesome costume-maker Nex. We discussed some topics with the hosts, and took questions from the audience. It was like a nice, relaxed talk show. We got the chance to address some issues like dealing with low self-confidence, which a lot of people struggle with. From the cheers we got from our answers, I hope the audience took home more optimism! We also talked about what cosplay means to us and how this simple hobby changed our lives, and others in return.


Rinrin's shark looked happy to be there with us.


Stage selfie with the crowd, hahah! Do you see Jack Frost posing with us?


Smile, everybody!!


After our talk, we ventured outside and got to meet more people


We also grabbed some Oligo chocolate malt drink which we were all kinda obsessed with. Got asked for more pictures while drinking, and then the Iwatobi Photobomb Club attacked!


I pulled the Rasengan app from my phone and derped with Naruto


Time to judge the group cosplay competition, along with the awesome Jna jnalye as X-23!
We saw some really excellent performances, and it inspired us to try doing group skits again!


Our pens for judging were in our spirit colors, heheh


It was the RWBY pair who took home the gold! They were fantastic!!


Trying to channel Nagisa's poses in their winning team photos, hahah


HobbyCon group photo!!


At the end of everything, a special video played onstage, which led to Max's epic proposal to Jna! SO MUCH LOVE


For the afterparty, we derped to Splash Free! as backup dancers while Kachang Puteh sang. We practiced this for a full TWO minutes, hahahah! Watch the video HERE!


LOL, Pedobear lives!

When the event came to a close, we finally got a chance to take pictures with the HobbyCon committee.


We started taking off our contacts to relax more, and then became the Megane Club!


Shariff wanted us to be sexy and fabulous


And then things turned bizarre


Emitting much love and moe beams with Maguro, the head of the Fuwa Fuwa Time maid cafe!

HobbyCon Thoughts

I can't properly condense the entirety of the experience into this journal entry, but we all had a BLAST at HobbyCon, but I think the best part really was just being able to talk and hang out with everyone during the times we weren't onstage.

I can't begin to describe how thankful I am for everyone who took the time to just personally tell us that they appreciate the things we do. We share our photos and writing and artwork online, and while we do hear from people through comments, there's nothing like speaking to someone face to face and seeing the people behind the names. I've lost count of how many times someone told me "I've been following you since [many many years ago]" and it always amazes me that you guys have stuck around all that time. It doesn't always sink in how people from all around the world are able to follow our silly adventures until we actually feel the distance by traveling and meeting these people in a place that is foreign to us. I'm really grateful to everybody for making us feel at home and welcome and for giving us a chance to make you laugh or smile or feel inspired.

It's really heartwarming to think that something that really just started out as a hobby my friends and I do for our own enjoyment has brought so much joy and inspiration to other people, and made them pick themselves up and make themselves and their lives better, all because we decided to share our photos and stories online.

Our sincerest thanks to the HobbyCon team and the sponsors for giving us this chance to experience the wonderful community in Sabah!

Thank you also to everybody who came up to us to talk and hand over letters or presents or hugs! We'll always treasure them and the memories!

We're really happy that HobbyCon was our first international guesting together and we hope this event and the community will continue to thrive and grow! You've given us unforgettable memories and we look forward to visiting again and pulling more of our friends along!

MESTI DATANG YOOOOOOO
SO MUCH LOVE YOOOOOOO

For those of you who have the patience to read for some extra info!

When I started cosplaying, I didn't think makeup was such a major part of it. I was so hesitant to even put eyeliner because I'd think, "This character is a guy, I shouldn't look like I'm wearing makeup!" And I guess I was silly enough to think I looked enough like the characters I chose without doing anything to my face?

I can't find more pictures of my really old cosplays (which is just as well, hahah) from the time I didn't want to use makeup apart from these:

It depends on the character too, I think. I generally use more eyeliner and try to go for a really even complexion for anime characters to emulate the look of the 2D art without taking it too literally. But for movie/book cosplay, I take a different approach.

So that's probably a long enough intro for this post! Hahah! Bottom line: Makeup is cool because it helps you change the way you look. And that's part of what's fun about cosplay — Being able to transform yourself from the way you usually look.

One day I thought it'd be a fun exercise on flexibility to cosplay different characters from the same series, all by myself. It would be an amusing way to illustrate how angles, expressions and makeup can help one person depict different characters. Using only the wigs and clothes I have at home, I decided to try cosplaying the main characters of the anime, Free!

I also chose a vibrant blue lens because Haruka has bright blue eyes that contrast with his dark hair. The lenses I used are the Ocean Blue Cosplay Lenses from Alice and Rabbit's Shop, where I get most of my lenses.

The eyebrows were kind of an extra challenge for me since Makoto has really kind-looking eyebrows that curve upwards towards the center, while mine naturally angle downwards (which usually lead people to think I look mean). I kind of imagined Mako to have thick eyebrows so I rolled with that. I draw them extra thick on the top part near the center to fight against the downward curve of my real eyebrows. Then for the photos, I raised them up (like the way you would when you're surprised, hahah) to give a kinder facial expression. This also helped make my eye crease more visible.

The pattern of this also looks like it would be better suited for a more intense and aggressive character. I don't know if most people would think I'm crazy for taking that into account, but I do like to consider the pattern when choosing contact lenses for a character.

This was very difficult for me. It's hard to be shota, bro. I struggled. And I kind of want to punch myself for making these faces. Doing this hurt me a little. Ahahahah! The way Nagisa acts is just really a stretch from how I actually am.

I made my cheeks look rounder with the way I smiled. I describe it as pushing my face meats up by giving a tight smile. This also made my upper lip look thinner, which I guess kind of works for Nagisa. I don't know if this will work for everyone, but the point is to observe how certain facial expressions affect the shape of your face, and use them to your advantage when you can.

The coloring on the Crystal Max Red is semi-transparent, so it lets the white part show through a bit at the bottom. This is also why the lens diameter is important. I think the average diameter for irises are about 14mm. The lenses I used for Haruka and Makoto are 14.2mm, so they're only slightly enlarging. These ones are 14.8mm in diameter.

If you're wondering about the teeth: Those are my natural teeth. They're pretty strangely shaped (but I like them) and I'm just not used to smiling with them, but I decided to show them off this time because it's character-appropriate!

See? They are pointier along the sides so I angled my face so they'd be more visible.

Half my eyebrows here are drawn on, because I wanted them to angle upwards to look extra mean. I used Kryolan eyebrow wax to flatten half my eyebrows then piled concealer on top to hide them. Then I drew on the other half with a cream pigment from my Ben Nye wheel, using an angular eyebrow brush.

The lenses I used for Rin were the limited edition red prescription lenses from A&R. I chose these instead of the red ones I used for Nagisa because it's a brighter red, which is like Rin's eye color. The diameter is also smaller, so it gives my eyes more of a mean look compared to Nagisa's big sparkly eyes.

Now, I've never been properly trained in makeup or anything like that, so this is all just coming from someone who learned to use makeup by thinking of them as drawing materials. (Eyeliners are like ink brushes or colored pencils, eyeshadow is like chalk pastel, lip pigments are paints, etc.) It is questionable if my methods are correct, but I just wanted to share how I go about things and I thought it could serve as a guideline for you guys to think of how to manage it for yourselves.

These techniques will also work differently for people with different eye or face shapes so it's best for you to experiment on your own face or with your friends. It's fun!

The amount of makeup you use, and how you want to interpret features on anime characters is entirely up to you. Everyone's got different preferences. Like some people find drawing the eye crease weird, but it works for some people. But it's all really up to you! You just have to try things and find a look that you feel comfortable with. And don't judge yourself until you've got your wig and everything on and have finished the entire look, because I certainly felt like a fool in the middle of doing some of these. By that I mean Rin

It was a fun challenge to take on, and I hope to try it with other series!