“I hope you find someone who speaks your language so you don’t have to spend a lifetime translating your spirit”. ~ Unknown
There will be a bit of a growing and evolving time for both of us, and frankly I don't know what this will mean for the Dojo, only time will tell...
“The lust for comfort murders the passions of the soul”. ~ Kahlil Gibran
We still love each other, but in the end, the mature thing to do is to respect our own progression, and though I suspect that we will continue to be in each others lives we are indeed our own individuals, and we have naturally grown apart.
It is very hard to grow apart from someone that you love, but when things don't quite line up and we come face to face with the the reality that we likely have only one shot at this life, and you can either decide whether you are going to shape your neurology to accommodate someone or to commit to changing or coming to a compromise with them. There is also the fourth option of realizing that you as a person don't need to be defined by the relationships you live. And I deeply feel that this is an important and reasonable conclusion to understand and consider as well.
“When we stay in relationships which cannot hold the entirety of who we are becoming, it’s no one’s job but ours to make adjustments, without blame and with love. Stay in love, go in love, make space in love. Don’t lie to you. ~ Dimitra Stathopoulos
For me (Atemi), this makes a lot of sense for me and is something that I personally intend to commit to.