Loving your fandom while avoiding the toxicity
|16 min read
Recommended Journals
Beginner's Guide: Freelance Portrait Photograpy I
Art in the Professions Freelance Photographer: a self-employed photographer hired to work for different companies or clients on particular assignments So you've got your camera, have gathered some experience and feel like you're ready to start using your photography skills as a source of income. You enjoy portraiture and are now considering freelance portrait photography as an option. This topic will be presented over projecteducate (https://www.deviantart.com/projecteducate)'s Art in the Professions Week in two parts: the first part looks at the things you should take into account before you start and the second part examines how to start and grow your business. Before you Sta
What's Next for Eclipse: Literature
One of the best things about DeviantArt is the incredible communities that have organically grown and supported one another throughout the site. A community that continues to grow in its artistry and passion is the Literature community. It's been hugely important for us to develop Eclipse with the Literature community in mind, and to shine a spotlight on both the writers and readers. There's still a lot we want to do to expand Literature on DeviantArt, but here are some updates we've made, and will be making, in Eclipse: Literature Editor Our new Literature editor provides an expanded and easier experience. You can now bold, italicize, underline text without HTML knowledge, and you can even add corresponding visual imagery or link YouTube videos. Literature Thumbnails Based on your feedback, Literature thumbnails now include a preview of text so that deviants can get a sneak peek at what words lie in store! We'll also be further adjusting the look of the thumbnails by dimming
Community Project: #Daily5
Come one, come all! It's time for a community project. Something many of us see on DA each day is community members asking for comments. Whether it's simply acknowledgement that they created something or genuinely wanting feedback on their art, true deviation comments can be hard to come by! I mean there is a LOT of artwork submitted here each day. If you don't have a large watcherbase, it can be hard to get attention for yourself and your art. There are a lot of comment-oriented projects on DA and that's awesome. I am hoping to keep the momentum going with this new project. Introducing... #Daily5! I would like to challenge all of you to ta
Featured in collections
Astralseed's avatar
By Astralseed   |   Watch
27 38 1K (1 Today)
Published: November 1, 2018
:iconprojecteducate:
:iconprojecteducate:


Fan Art Week


Hi everyone,
as part of Fan Art Week, I'm here to discuss how to continue loving your fandom while avoiding any toxicity in its community.  


It's no secret that some fandoms have a lot of toxicity in them.  Sometimes you'll run into people who disagree with how you choose to enjoy your fandoms.  Maybe it's not even you who is experiencing the drama directly, but you still find yourself surrounded by it within your fandom.  

Finding yourself in the middle of ship wars or general disagreements over AU's (Alternate Universe) or character design or personalities tends to be unpleasant, so how do we avoid these situations?  
At the end of the day you probably can't fully avoid these situations, however you can do some things to prevent them from taking some of the enjoyment out of your fandoms.  


It's okay to disagree

Disagreements are a basic part of life and human interaction.  I think we all know that people don't always agree with us, or us with them.  How we react during such disagreements can make a huge difference in our overall experience though.  Most fandom drama tends to stem from basic disagreements. Knowing how to not let it escalate can help keep the drama minimal.  

If you find yourself disagreeing with someone in your fandom the best thing you can do is to respect that it's their right to have a different opinion.  You don't have to agree with it, nor do you have to actively support it, but simple acceptance that others may share different opinions can go a long way.  


What to do if you experience drama in your fandoms community?

Stop, drop, and roll!  

Well, I guess you'd only need to do that if you're on fire.  If you're experiencing drama in your fandoms community the best thing you can do is turn away.  Don't become part of the drama, don't add to it.  Step away and find a corner that is drama free.  


What can you do if you can't find a positive corner within your fandoms community?

Look for like-minded people within your fandom.  Ideally people who are drama free and share your views or are open to your views on how to appreciate the fandom.  

Making positive friendships with people who share your love and appreciation for a fandom can be a great thing and you'll always have something to talk about which you enjoy together.



Recommended Journals
Beginner's Guide: Freelance Portrait Photograpy I
Art in the Professions Freelance Photographer: a self-employed photographer hired to work for different companies or clients on particular assignments So you've got your camera, have gathered some experience and feel like you're ready to start using your photography skills as a source of income. You enjoy portraiture and are now considering freelance portrait photography as an option. This topic will be presented over projecteducate (https://www.deviantart.com/projecteducate)'s Art in the Professions Week in two parts: the first part looks at the things you should take into account before you start and the second part examines how to start and grow your business. Before you Sta
What's Next for Eclipse: Literature
One of the best things about DeviantArt is the incredible communities that have organically grown and supported one another throughout the site. A community that continues to grow in its artistry and passion is the Literature community. It's been hugely important for us to develop Eclipse with the Literature community in mind, and to shine a spotlight on both the writers and readers. There's still a lot we want to do to expand Literature on DeviantArt, but here are some updates we've made, and will be making, in Eclipse: Literature Editor Our new Literature editor provides an expanded and easier experience. You can now bold, italicize, underline text without HTML knowledge, and you can even add corresponding visual imagery or link YouTube videos. Literature Thumbnails Based on your feedback, Literature thumbnails now include a preview of text so that deviants can get a sneak peek at what words lie in store! We'll also be further adjusting the look of the thumbnails by dimming
Community Project: #Daily5
Come one, come all! It's time for a community project. Something many of us see on DA each day is community members asking for comments. Whether it's simply acknowledgement that they created something or genuinely wanting feedback on their art, true deviation comments can be hard to come by! I mean there is a LOT of artwork submitted here each day. If you don't have a large watcherbase, it can be hard to get attention for yourself and your art. There are a lot of comment-oriented projects on DA and that's awesome. I am hoping to keep the momentum going with this new project. Introducing... #Daily5! I would like to challenge all of you to ta
Featured in collections
Comments38
anonymous's avatar
Join the community to add your comment. Already a deviant? Sign In
BlueCrystalSpider's avatar
BlueCrystalSpiderStudent General Artist
I agree.
Shayla-Estate's avatar
"If you find yourself disagreeing with someone in your fandom the best thing you can do is to respect that it's their right to have a different opinion.  You don't have to agree with it, nor do you have to actively support it, but simple acceptance that others may share different opinions can go a long way. "

This is so true, and something I try to live by in my fandom. I am not part of a particularly popular ship, and on (thankfully very few) occasions have been disrespected for it. In fact, just had this encounter last Friday as another fan and I were chatting and eating our meal. She asked me about the ship, I simply answered "No I don't", and her response was basically "I hate you, we can't be friends." Now this was mostly said in a jovial manner, and I did not take it personally. I did not lash out. I responded with "I just don't and that's okay. You and my sister would have a lot to talk about." Had I been someone else, they might have responded differently and gotten into a fight in the middle of IHOP. To put things in perspective, this gal, whom I've only known for a short amount of time, is 18, and I'm not saying age has everything to do with it. But versus my almost 33 years of age I tried to show more maturity and acceptance. I know and accept that I'm probably "not in the norm" by not shipping this couple, but I don't. And I don't have to just to fit in. 

I had a similar response from my sister when she discovered I didn't agree with the ship, and yes that really soured my day. And occasionally sours the fandom for me. But I keep quiet, I enjoy what I enjoy, I accept that others enjoy different things. All I ask is for the same respect in return. Sorry this got rather lengthy. I don't feel like I have many places to express my frustration when it comes to this particular thing. So thank you.
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
Yeah, I've seen a fair bit of nonsense when it comes to someone shipping a certain pair or not supporting a popular ship.  It's all so unnecessary too because there's nothing wrong with people having different opinions.  
Shayla-Estate's avatar
Exactly! And now, even with other shows, I feel like I can't really talk about my ships with my sister now without getting slightly harassed. And that's silly.
xDonnervogelx's avatar
xDonnervogelxStudent Interface Designer
It's funny; we have a project this semester in one class where our group focuses on fandom toxicity. This is just on point xD
I hope it's okay if we use some of the content for our project (=
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
Sure, feel free :hug:
Daphne-Brown's avatar
Daphne-BrownHobbyist General Artist
I love the Trump and Hilary gifs
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
;)
lu--24's avatar
lu--24Hobbyist General Artist
Good advice. I agree on finding your corner. In some cases I found it is best for me to ignore the international fandom and stick to the one from my country which is much more down to earth...
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
:nod: 
Giganotosaur314's avatar
Giganotosaur314Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is such a well written guide, it's informative, not too long, and it keeps a positive feel. I think everyone whom are in a fandom, should read this, especially newcomers. Thank you for sharing this, I loved reading it.
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
When I first proposed writing it I thought it would be much longer than this.. but as I started writing I was like oh man this is so much shorter than I expected D: 
At the end of the day just avoiding the drama and finding a happy place for one's self is where it's at.  
Giganotosaur314's avatar
Giganotosaur314Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well I am actually glad it's not too long, because sometimes people are busy or tired, so they don't want to read a mountain of text; this journal, however, avoided this, which I'm glad for, so more people can fully read this informative and thoughtful entry.
EMO-ART-13's avatar
EMO-ART-13Hobbyist Artist
... I'm sharing this with my watchers!
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
:highfive:
EMO-ART-13's avatar
EMO-ART-13Hobbyist Artist
Shared! You're Welcome!
sevese's avatar
seveseHobbyist Traditional Artist
I wish more people would stick to that simple rules.
Drama is never an option when wanting to enjoy something, no matter what.
Thanks for sharing. :)
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
I think for a lot of people they just don't know how to react in certain situations.  Often a lot of drama comes from people who end up acting like a caged animal lashing out because they probably don't realize that they can retreat.  Otherwise learning when to stand tall or when to bow out also can take a fair bit of maturity so the younger folks may not have gotten to a point yet where they can easily decide which way to lean.  
sevese's avatar
seveseHobbyist Traditional Artist
True - and in general that might be the case. 'nods'
But to be fair I have to say that I witnessed grown ups being 30 years or older acting like that. I don't blame teenagers for being over-defensive or too rude due to their lack of ability to discuss without causing drama. They are sort of excused. For adults ... I can't force myself to be as patient as I am with kids. ^.^
RiEile's avatar
Very sound advice, but... is DA populated by misbehaving 10-year-olds? I guess I just think too good of people...
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
:giggle: there are a lot of younger kids on DA, but you'll also find a lot of adults.  I haven't seen as much fandom drama here as I have on other sites, but it does still exist.  
TylerFreeFlight's avatar
TylerFreeFlightHobbyist Writer
:heart::heart::hug::heart::heart:
This is so... right on the money!
I love my fandom and the good friends I have there.
I avoid the darker side and realize all fandom's have one.
Great advice! You deserve that heart after you name. :)
Astralseed's avatar
AstralseedProfessional General Artist
Thanks hon :heart:
Lugia20711's avatar
Lugia20711Hobbyist Writer
This is going in my faves.
anonymous's avatar
Join the community to add your comment. Already a deviant? Sign In
©2019 DeviantArt
All Rights reserved