Namely because my entire neighborhood is filled with 'fake homeless people' fake as in watch this regular pregnant chick pretend to be homeless, get money, give it to her BF who goes and buys booze and cigarettes, get in their pretty-good-looking-car and then drive off. Fuck knows what happened to their baby, she was pregnant several times
I mean there are obviously actual homeless people. But TBH they aren't any better because they take the money their given and go buy booze and cigarattes then complain they can't afford food. Saw a guy get nearly 100$ and buy beer with it
I don't trust all of them, ( my dad told me the story about how there was a homeless man who he always gave money to, and one day he brought a box of coats to him and the homeless guy said "I don't need them, I'm not actually homeless". Or if they look like complete druggies, I won't. But it's usually because I don't have any money on me.
As long as I have cash on me, I give it. I even give if I don't have cash - I gave my handmade scarf to one guy, then my newly-made scarf to another girl walking past cars because she looked so damn miserable, and even a Starbucks gift card to one lady because I didn't feel like ten bucks was enough. The way I see it, if I'm giving something, I won't miss it, but it might mean life or death to the person I'm giving it to - Chicago is fucking brutal in the winter. If they buy booze or drugs with it, that's their deal. But I'm not going to hold back something I won't miss just because someone might be faking it.
I have never given cash but I have given spare change. For the most part, it depends on the situation but most of the time, I don't have any extra money to give since I buy things with my debit card these days. I do feel bad sometimes because you really don't know what their situation is but yeah, since I hardly have physical money on me and I can't really afford to give away money right now, I usually just apologize.
i live in a major city so they're literally everywhere. some even try to sell candy. most of the time they look like addicts. very rarely do i see someone who doesn't look like an alcoholic or crackhead. of course not all homeless people are like this but a vast majority are.
if they're not alcoholics or genuine then they just want the extra cash. there was this woman who used to walk around a shopping center i go to with a baby strapped to her chest and ask for money until she got banned from going there. she didn't "look" homeless at all. my mom claimed she saw the same woman get into a good looking car. these types of people are very common here and they can get aggressive.
no in the city I live in the panhandlers there are rampant, and most are drug users. Some have threatened me before if I didn't give them money, some make up stories or try and ask you about how good your life is to make you feel bad. When you look at them you can tell they aren't sober. I have gotten to a point where I just say no, I don't have money. and if they get aggressive I do too, I'm just tired of it. They think because of how I look, and the college I go to, that I'm just rich. I am not, I barely have money for a coffee in the morning. I am not going to help someones fix, or give to someone who is rude as hell to me. I don't even carry cash anymore lmfao. Sorry, but I spent all my money on college.
I did however have someone ask me for food, and I was on my way to the cafeteria, so I said sure. So I get this dude some food from whatever the dining hall was serving, and when I handed him a full box of food he stopped and questioned me what was in it, I said whatever they were serving. He looked angry at me and stomped away. Dude said he was starving let me tell ya the nerve.
I will help someone who is truly genuine, but where I'm from, most aren't.
honestly it depends, one time i went out to eat with my younger sisters and my mom, and when we were about to get into the car a woman came up and asked for money so that she could go and get her car fixed she was supposedly stuck in our state for a while and needed money to repair her car, but my mom refused why? my mom could tell that the person asking for money was on drugs. the person probably was going to go and buy drugs if we gave money to them...
lol and there was also a time when somebody that my mom knew was driving around and then encountered somebody that "needed money for food" so then they had a fresh sandwich in their car and offered it to them, but they refused?? yeah it really depends, a lot of people in my state probably just want money so that they could buy drugs or something
I give money to street musicians only. If they are good and If I have cash. Here in Russia homeless who ask money on streets ask for them in the name of Christ and I don't like when people try to press on the feeling of faith I don't have. Also I know some of them are just slaves.
I often give money to someone if I have something to spare . It doesn´t really even have a "living on the streets" situation. Once an adolescent came to me with tear-filled eyes, begging me for money because otherwise he wouldn´t be able to pay the train home. I could tell that he wasn´t a person living in poverty, well he didn´t even say so himself, but he was just in a really shitty situation in which he forgot his wallet at home. The happiness in his eyes was a true one after I gave him the needed amount. Maybe I gave some people money although they were about to abuse it afterwards. But that is something I cannot foretell. And I´m better able to bear the knowledge that someone misuses the money I spared rather than knowing afterwards that I could have helped a person in dire need but didn´t do anything about it . But that is just something fitting to my own attitude. I have perfect understanding for everyone who doesn´t spare anything because of tremendous distrust.
There are a lot of people who are capable of work yet not wanting to. If they get money for doing nothing then why should they work?
When you worked the whole day and want to go to a store for food, would it be bad when you go outside and a person stands there asking for your hard earn money or paid food because they do not want to work?
Well, it really depends. Because some of them are just lazy, and some of them are just addicts or part of a syndicate or something. But if they're, like, selling sampaguita, a type of flower here in the Philippines, I would just buy them all. So to be sure, I just give them whatever snacks I have in my bag. Because those who really need it won't throw it away for another thing like the other people some I know gave to.
Moral of the story, if you're going to give, just give something you can garauntee they'll use not for gambling or to buy drugs (Biscuits, Clothes, socks etc) because really, there are people who are making a business out of it.
I'm more likely to give money to someone who DOES something for the money. Like street musicians. And I rarely meet those.
And yes, there are homeless people sitting around asking for money, but I guess it depends what country you live in. I've become very mistrusting. Once I bought a whole lunch for a homeless guy, and we started to have a conversation, and I found out he's homeless because he doesn't want to work. He wasn't handicapped, just lazy.
Even a friend of mine lived on the street for 2 years (because of shit parents) and said she never begged once during that time. She offered service, like carrying heavy grocery bags to your car for a dollar or so. We both hate beggers.
No, I never give cash. I usually have some on me in the car, but due to knowing first hand the life of a homeless person i choose not to. Now thats not to say there are good people in shitty situations, but most of those people can get help besides begging on the street. Just by looking at them and really examining I can usually tell if theyre a. doing drugs b. lying c. in a bad spot.
Most of the time I don't have enough money for such things. Plus the people on the streets are frequently dressed in brand new clothing and I've often seen them get several $20 bills in a single hour. No person in need should need to stand on the corner all day and pull in more cash than I could make at a trained job. That all just screams dishonesty to me.
tbh most of the time i instead offer food. because i can buy food even with my bank card, and i know they're not getting drugs. even drug addicts need to eat, and they deserve food as much as the next person. If anything I might be even more sympathetic to them because my brother and mom both did drugs and my moms been sober for years, but my brother did hard drugs (mostly meth) and hes still in a sort of.. recovery stage? hes been sober for almost a year but its still something that sticks with him and he still has risk for relapse unlike my mom. but anyways,he lived on the streets during his addiction and every time i see the homeless all i can think of is if it were him.so yeah if i got loose change ill give it to them, but most of the time i offer food, blankets, hygiene products, etc stuff like that.
thats good of u // around here its hard to know whether they really need it or if theyre gona abuse it, or if theyre faking // if i was rich id love to give someone (if i knew they were really needing it) a whole bunch of money.
i, 89% of the time, dont have cash so, same. but it also depends, if i did have cash, and the situation looked dire, i would. but most of the time, in the neighbourhood i live in, people lie. they ask for a train ride home, every day. why are they in the same neighbourhood every day if it isnt their home. its very upsetting, because our country has a good welfare system. these peeps can get help at any time.
Exactly, a lot of people can make easy money doing this stuff because people want to be nice and help others out. While I would like to help and would like you said if the situation were dire enough, but I never really find that to be the case.