According to the doctor, my grandfather will live again for the next months (earlier we excepted just days), because exams shaowed he is not sick. A tumor was found, but it is a begnin one. In my family benign tumors are common from both sides (cancer is more unusual), and many have them from birth to grave. Tomorrow he will be back at home. My grandfather is really glad to the idea to be back at home.
My grandfather is healed yet dying.
All bad stuffs my grandfather had were unrelated to what is happening, in fact, all his parameters are back to normal, so the discomfort is gone. But he sleeps more and more. This is what we call "death to old age".
I excepted that this kind of death was sudden (My great-grandfather just died in his sleep), instead for some it takes time, but is equally peaceful. Anyway if is slow is worse. This because my grandfather is aware to what is happening to him. You wait your last moment in fear. If it occurs by night you're too busy to do your stuffs, you don't even think about that.
To make it worse, yesterday my grandfather was in the same room with a man that died in pain. That's not nice.
My grandfather is almost 89. It should be next month. Two of his brother died at 93, one suddenly and the other slowly, but she had alzheimer, so she didn't realized. My grandfather hasn't alzheimer, he just turned slow at moving.
Of his brothers, the one that is still alive and well, is 93, and just starting to go old now.
He has improved and is more stable. He is still dying, but I guess that most of what he had were caused by death unrelated stuffs, so doctors took care of him, they're curing all death unrelated stuffs and now my grandfather is better.
At this point he can't still leave the hospital.
Doctors suspect he had an ictus, but it didn't worked dramatically as you see in movie or in the way you're often told. He just fell, then my grandmother, my aunts and the uncles called the hospital, he was brought to hospital, visited and they said it was bad.
Right now I'm a bit confused. And scared yes. The whole family is worried.
Most of people I know never meet their grandparents, or they lost all of them early. Few know what is like having all of them.
But circumstances gave me this luck. My grandparents had children at earluy age, so my parents. I was born that my grandparents were in their 40/50s, and still with small children theirselves (one of my grandmother was 44 when I was born). One of my uncle is just 3 years older than me. So when I went to school, my grandparent didn't retired yet, while my classmates had their grandparent in their 70/80s, or already dead. Grandparents were unusually when I went to art school.
And then I turned adult, going toward 40 and still with all of them alive. I was lucky. But when they die is still sad, either when you are 8 or when you are 36.
Elders aren't as bad as I see youth portray them too often. In my family women tend to be more open minded (It is personality, as my aunt that died at 93 wasn't that open mined). My grandfathers have a similar personality, a large self confidence (especially the one I'm talking about) and able to build everything. My grandmother (dad side) is gentle, but with strong ideas, and is outgoing. The other grandmother is quite loud when she talks, and sometimes she say bad words (she uses 'Bitch' as insult often). When my mum was little, when my grandmother called her daughters to get them at home, my mum ran immediatly not because she feared my grandma, but because she was ashamed to hear her mum scraming vulgar words and everybody hearing her (at that time those words weren't well seen). But she is open minded enough that you can talk with her about everything.
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