And no, I'm not talking about Sepulchre, I'm talking about someone in my personal life I have to put up with.
I've always thought that cyber-bullying is a first-world problem unless taken to such extremes like constant harassment with newly created accounts, death threats, and so on, but real-world bullying is worse. Allow me to argue my case: it's worse because it's harder to avoid. On the Internet you are able to avoid these people by just simply blocking them. If you are not someone who depends a lot on the internet to market yourself, you could even just delete your account and disappear. Again, if they keep coming back and evading IP bans, it's a concern, but if it's just one person who never bothers you again after you block them, you have NO right to say that is a huge problem. It's annoying having to deal with all these "progressive liberals" these days who act like one guy on the internet giving you criticism is a "bigot/Russian bot/sexist/etc" when they probably haven't even experienced real-world bullying to the extent I have. I have dealt with a few little trolls every now and then online and they are nothing if you can help it. There are some exceptions. After my experience with Sepulchre, I know what it's like to have a LEGIT cyber-bully, but after what has happened to me in the past few months at my current job, I can say with full certainty it is much worse.
I started this new job as a meat-packager back in May and this person did not start working there till a week or two later. He had apparently been working there before and then left but was rehired. I was actually relieved to have him there because we had been having issues catching up with the orders we package due to being short-handed but with him there now, we were able to keep up and finish at the time we were supposed to. It was frustrating to come home later than expected knowing we could have made better time with at least one more worker, but then we had him and things were better. I will be honest that things started off ok with him. He didn't seem so bad and seemed quite helpful since he already knew much about the workspace and how things operate. He had this tough asshole, highschool jock personality going on but I just figured it wasn't going to get that bad. He was a good worker and kept things moving. It was only till about June when I started noticing some red flags.
It all started when he would show me how to do certain things and it was a bit too different from how I was told how it was done from my supervisor or anyone else. I've always had this problem with jobs where the workers all have their own different ways of doing things and act like their way is how it absolutely must be done so I can't figure out which version the boss wants it done and this made me even more irritated. He started acting all high and mighty like he was in charge and would tell me to move faster even though my pace was already fine and the supervisor didn't seem put off by it. I would start arguing with him that it's not helping and he would just give me the whole "Well do it anyway/You gotta learn how to do this eventually/stop whining" bullshit. Things began getting heated and he just turned into a bully from there on out. I spoke with my boss and the secretary who takes on the same leadership role he has since he's usually very busy during the day and she's more available. She was helpful but things hadn't really gotten bad enough yet for me to file a legitimate complaint, I just had some problems with the way things were going and that this worker was getting too rough on me. She warned me that he just wouldn't change and was always like that and I worried that this was just me being ignored and maybe I was being a bit oversensitive and needed to just suck it up, but I couldn't.
For a while it was an on-and-off issue. One day he would give me a hard time and I would snap back at him and it would end in us hating each other for the rest of the day, the next day we're alright and we're actually communicating and getting things done and the day ends fine. Over the summer it kept getting worse and now fast-forward to fall. Same old insults being used at me, telling me I'm lazy and don't work fast enough and just wait around doing nothing even though he walks outside to smoke for a few minutes while I work sometimes. The supervisor and his wife (who is a co-worker) do this too and they are allowed to and I am apparently allowed to walk outside to cool down if I am a bit stressed or sore, I just find it hypocritical that he calls me lazy if he feels the need to do that. The truth is, I am not lazy on this job, there are just times every now and then when I stand around waiting for something to happen. My job is usually to stand over by the cryo-vaccuum machine that seals the bags of meat and then I pack it in the boxes and stack the boxes on a wooden palette. The guys in the cooler are the ones who cut the meat off of the hanging butchered animals and then bring it out to us in tubs where it gets bagged and labeled by this guy and another person helping him, and then it gets brought over to me. If there is a gap in the meat being brought out to us, it leads to delays and we just stand around waiting for something. There usually is something to do like preparing bags in advance by labeling them,cleaning up something or reordering the rolls of sticker labels, but if I can't find anything to do, that's his cue to start shitting all over me with petty insults.
I know I'm doing nothing wrong because my supervisor never resorts to this sort of thing and if he really needs me to do something, he just kindly asks me if I'd like to do this or calmly states that this needs to be done. My supervisor is a bit firm but not harsh. He did raise his voice at me one day but he apologized later which is how I can tell he means well. The other guy has never once said sorry for anything harsh he has said.
Well these past 2 weeks have been the worst. Basically everything I've told you has been happening and much more. First thing that happened this Tuesday morning was he actually gave me a borderline threat when I accidentally moved an electric jack/lift a bit too close towards him and he said something to the tune of "if you hit me with that thing I'll fucking kill you/beat the shit out of you!". It was a bit hard to hear him but I think he actually said that. Later, I was talking with my supervisor about something and was just simply making a complaint because a certain tool we used didn't work well and this asshole immediately started shouting over me telling me to stop whining and wouldn't let me even speak to the supervisor. I shouted back at him to "fuck off" over and over again, seeing honestly no other option on how to get it through to him that he needs to leave me alone. He went out for a smoke break and I finished what I was doing and then went into the office, very on edge with my face red and hot, and told the secretary everything. She was furious and told me she has actually had a few bad moments arguing with him and is going to talk to him some time soon. Also, apparently the reason he left a while ago was because he had a huge argument with the supervisor and just walked out and got another job for a while but came back because he really needed the job again. That makes me more suspicious and it all makes sense now as to why he behaves this way.
These past few days have been a little better but there's always at least one instance where he feels the need to bully me again and again. We had a head-to-head this morning and after lunch my supervisor had me do a job unwrapping some giant frozen sausages over in another room to keep away from him. Before I started my next shift cleaning the machines, I talked with my supervisor and his wife and apparently this guy has been giving everyone crap, even them. He says he's been trying to get this jerk fired because he can't stand his attitude either and my boss will be talking to him next Monday. I felt a lot better after having talked to those two and am way more hopeful about the situation now that I know they are on my side.
I'm hoping he's just going to get fired because everyone seems to be saying that there's no way to change him, and if that's the case, he's as good as gone. My life will be so much easier once this is over. It started out very frustrating but I have adjusted to this job, it's just this one piece-of-shit co-worker that makes everything unbearable. I feel a lot better when he's not around and just get scared whenever he is. I actually try to keep myself out of his line of view or just look busy whenever he is looking so he won't start insulting me over "standing around doing nothing".
These past few weeks have not been very good for me, at least during the day. I've been very frustrated and worried about the future of my job. I've felt like just walking out and driving off to cool down but I'm afraid I could get fired if I do it. The good thing is, my boss is the nicest man in the entire building and he and my dad have been friends since they were kids so I highly doubt he'd fire me for that but I have wanted to quit the job just to avoid all this. After knowing that basically everyone else shares my pain, I am certain the job will be fine for me to keep until I find another one, it's just been so painful having to deal with this. I have never been bullied this badly in my entire life. The bullies I endured in school as a kid and teenager were just picking on me and I was sensitive back then, but this is different. Straight-up harassment, name-calling for no reason, and getting a threat.
I just want this to end. I just want the fucker to get fired and I can go about my business doing a job and be happy. I don't need anymore of this. This is not something that should happen at a job. At least it's a bit more understandable with school since kids don't really know better yet and teenagers can act like fucking idiots at times but the workplace is no place for harassment. After what I've been through, I don't think I will ever take anyone seriously who complains about minor little trolling or what could be taken as just constructive criticism on the internet. People who say that is "harassment" are idiots. You don't know actual harassment until you experience what I have had to deal with from this guy or Sepulchre.
If you haven't been through this level of bullying I have, be thankful and pray that it stays that way. I am paranoid about jobs now since I've had to deal with someone like this and people telling me that every job has someone difficult is not exactly helping. It's made me not want to work at a job ever again and just go back to self-employment and maybe I'll run my own online business until I can finally publish my book and live off the earnings for that. I have to stay strong though. I am sure he will either get moved to another area in the building to stay far away from me or he'll get fired and we'll find a replacement worker. My supervisor says he knows someone he can get hired at this job who is better.
I am sorry if it seems I've kept this all bottled up though I have mentioned it on my Twitter before several times. I just didn't feel the need to say something here until now. I'm doing okay right now, especially after having talked to my supervisor, it's just so sad that I had to endure this. I haven't really hated someone to this extent in a long time and I feel bad it's come to this. Time to let go of that hatred and move along though. One thing's for sure, this guy needs Jesus badly. He's got serious issues and it's a wonder he's got a wife and kids.