Yeah, I experienced that once, and then there are a couple people I refuse to watch in the first place because their bad attitudes precede them.(I find out for myself if what people say is true, of course)
I hope it's clear what I mean here.. I'll leave an example maybe to give you an idea.
This stems from an occasion I actually stopped watching a comic (I won't say which) because the writer was flaming and banning truckloads of people for commenting - while maybe trolls deserve this, some of it was genuinely honest commentary about the current page looking wrong and some of it was telling off the guy for being a jackass. (There's no better word, sorry.) All three, trolls, critique, and the defense got banned. And the guy's justification of the action was what really got to me.. something akin to - as I understood- being the one to tell it as it is, really? No sugar-coating and whatnot.
Now.. the internet is full of stupid. Really. But it neither gives you the right to be an ass or make you less of a jerk being one here than if you were in a room full of people.
Needless to say I actually stopped reading the comic (about so-so) I was so irritated with the author that it soured the whole thing. x.x Anyone else experience that?
So far, the ones I've watched didn't act like an ass (or at least, I haven't felt compelled to un-watch them). But I'll give you one scenario. This certain artist was really popular for drawing certain fanarts, and generally having the type of art-style that everyone loves.
But this same fellow got flamed pretty bad. Eventually that fellow started to ... sound bitter and pissed quite often. I can't blame that artist one bit because shit keeps happening one after the other (art theft, flames, etc). Eventually the artist left DA.
The problem is that (from my observation) ... DA, when it's at its worst, can taint or corrupt those who are not thick-skinned or impervious to such attacks. When they get affected, it's like they've become this different person. They start to think that everyone is out to get them, so anything critical would then be deemed to be attacking instead of constructive.
It is most unfortunate that the artist you speak of had become like that.
I have only stopped watching people for the reason of avoiding unnecessary conflict/arguments.. that's a waste of my own energy nowadays as well as everyone's time (and space on a page). xD
That I can understand, thus the reason to not get sucked into drama. Though it wasn't DA I was really speaking of even if I'm sure there are people floating around here. Honestly I do understand your point (and I'm sure not thick-skinned) but.. to some extent it's your own responsibility to just keep a distance and let some of this go rather than be angry and bitter, especially to the level it sounds like. If that made sense.. It's hard, yes, but you can try. and if not, that's how things go.. DA has become a bit of a potluck of drama here and there. If you can't escape it, you either hit the road or start over. (I started over by making a new account, for example.. different reasons than mentioned, but still.) *misses the good ol' days*
I will say that it wasn't an artist and it wasn't on DA. This was the author/writer of the comic script. And again, most of these comments weren't even generally attacking, they tended to be neutral remarks or questions. (Basically the page was misinterpreted in a sense, and people were bringing this up.) Now his commentary page was *big* so not everyone reads through 20 minutes of it - I read parts over a day- and just posted their thoughts. So the guy was basically insulting people and banning them for commenting on something he previously explained in replies to other people. Which was happening a ton. The mature thing to do would have honestly been to face the fact that the opinions voiced were valid, and hey, maybe it's a goof. Live with it. Or don't bother paying attention to them, they'll find out themselves if they look around the page. What pushed me over the edge was that the guy was justifying his rudeness, essentially.. now I understand sugar-coating or lack-of, but there was a difference between that and being a simple jackass. And just as bad that he had a bunch of people who seemed to not realize.. if they or any of us met this kind of person in real life.. I'm fairly confident we wouldn't find him that funny in a real situation despite the 'looolz' over the internet. Or if that was them he just took down. =\
(Way too much writing. ;-; *braindead* ) Etc etc. It is very sad when someone gets dragged down because of others. And.. honestly.. I have a friend who became similar to this, just because of lifestyle. Sadly I grew up a bit and found that despite my forgiveness for things being tough - and getting bitter as a result-.. you can't lash out at everything around you. She was/is a good person, but I had enough of being hurt and it being 'okay' because she was bitter.
Honestly I do understand your point (and I'm sure not thick-skinned) but.. to some extent it's your own responsibility to just keep a distance and let some of this go rather than be angry and bitter, especially to the level it sounds like.
Amen. We either affect the world or let the world affect us. *nods*
I'm really sorry to hear about your friend. But you are right, you need to be assertive and not to take crap when it's thrown at you. Life has its many crazy turns, maybe someday she'll change for the better.