Most people judge someone within the first 10 seconds of seeing them, given that its best to wait to at least talk to them I have noticed the process whilst I walk around myself. I managed to decide on a judgment of someone the other day within prolly 4 or so seconds. I walked by them, noticed they smoked, had dirty on their hands, their eyes avoided contact with the people they were with which made me think that the person had something to hide from them. They said hello as i walked by (obviously noticing me look at them and I politely said hello and continued.) anyways people need to not only look farther into people then first sight but occasionally remind themselves we have instincts to judge others quickly in an attempt to protect oneself as well.
I didn't really believe in it, at least not until recently when one of my old coworkers was hired.
A while before she started, the manger who I was close with told her about. He described what she looked like and what little he knew about her, so before I even met her I had an image of what she would be like in my mind. Oh, but when I saw her it was absolutely amazing. I hadn't gotten up my hopes up at all, and then it turned out she was just everything I wanted in a partner. After we hung out it even turned out we had a lot of similar interests and such. The first time we hung out we talked for over nine hours, the last time we hung out it was even more.
In a very cruel twist of fate it turns out she is straight...
Awww, that's cute.. sad at the same time, but cute. <3 I don't know love-at-first-sight, but I know the sense of finding someone who fits your "dream" partner. I didn't expect my dream partner to be another girl, but it felt right. I didn't get my hopes up either, but.. we fell hard for each other, I think. Terrifying for me, because I'm so shy when it comes to sharing myself with others. I wish it had ended happier, but in short.. it did not. The experience leaves me resentful towards people who poison others' relationships, in all.
...this has me all emotional now. LOL. *hugs* Well, if fate gave a mean girl like me a chance for a soulmate, I'm sure someone'll be out there for you XD
Haaaa I know how you feel I got teary eyed writing that comment. You aren't mean at all, by the way. At least you have never come off as it, ever. I hope you can find someone also. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. ):
If you believe in love at first site then you're technically going off of looks. Never, never ever judge someone by how they look. You could think someone is a jerk when they might just be the perfect person for you. You could be a stereotypical "giddy cheerleader" type person and your "soul mate" might be dressed as a stereotypical goth.
Same goes for pick-up lines and techniques. The funnier they are the better score you should give them! c:
Well maybe not literally.. if you allow it to stretch a bit, to more along the lines of "love at first meeting", maybe? I see what you're getting at; it's like seeing someone on the bus or street who looks intimidating, but could be the nicest person you meet for miles. Etc etc. I don't know real love stories personally (I think I'm kinda young for that, hehe) but I've overheard or heard third-hand of people who've met their "soul mate" and fallen head-over-heels for their character. Like, I heard of a guy completely reforming so that he'd be the best for someone he fell in love with first time meeting. And what-have-you. c: I doubt it can happen very often for real (because me being a bit of a cynic, I see a lot of relationships as being at least a little superficial).. but the real stories make the romantic in me go 'awwwww'.