Too Gay?I've been seeing quite a few people condemning gay folks for being "too open", trying to shove gayness in peoples' faces, and making gayness their defining characteristic. I can't speak for all gay people, but I have just a few things to say about this.
First, how can someone be too open or too forward about who they are? After all, being gay is nothing to be ashamed of. Our society has moved past that archaic idea. Thus, there is no reason should we feel we have to be careful and discreet about how much we reveal about our sexuality. I don't introduce myself with "hi, I'm Anna and I'm gay," but when conversations on relationships, politics, gay rights, or my significant other come up, I'm not shy about saying that I am a lesbian. If that offends you, the fault is yours, not mine.
Secondly, many people misinterpret normal behaviors as being innately gay. I've known straight men that have many stereotypically gay mannerisms and many straight wom
Too Gay follow-upAfter all the responses I got on my first piece, I feel like I need to clarify why complaining about people being "too gay" is harmful and the (often unrealized) implications of those words. I present the most common argument I heard.Too Gay follow-up2 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
"I have no problem with gays. I have gay friends, but they don't act flaming/butch but rather like normal people. Why can't you just be gay and not have to act like it or let everybody know?"
Implication: "I have no problem with gays so long as they act like me. I am uncomfortable with people who act in a stereotypically gay fashion because it is not "normal". I see gender non-conformity or homosexuality as inherently wrong or inferior and therefore as something to be suppressed or embarrassed of. If you are gay, that's fine, so long as I don't have to be confronted with something that I disagree with."
Why this is harmful: Telling someone to suppress a part of their personality is offensive in gene
HonestyTo anyone who wants to claim that 'reparative' therapy (to convert homosexuals to heterosexuals) should be legal for minors: at least be honest about what you support.Honesty2 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
Systematically dehumanizing patients by telling them that they are dirty, broken, and shameful. Verbal abuse is a central part of the therapy.
Isolating patients from their friends and family and removing any methods of contact like phones and computers. Only approved people are allowed to be contacted at all. Phone calls are often monitered by therapists, violating any hope of privacy. Letters are read before being sent and, if the counselor does not approve of the content, they are discarded.
Coercing frequent confessions from the patients about how they are sinful or worthless. Often privileges like the ability to contact family or leave the facility are withheld until the counselor feels the patient expresses e
PrideIt is not a disease.Pride2 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
It is not a choice.
It certainly isn't in just black and white,
No, there are many colours in a rainbow.
It is not just you.
It is not just me.
It certainly isn't abnormal,
No, there are many people like us.
It is not only painful.
It is not for attention.
It certainly isn't a game,
No, this is serious.
It's what you make it out to be.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Frustrated ChristianSometimes Christians baffle me. I'm talking about a very specific group of Christians... a group that is much more prevalent and numerous than I want to believe. They want to draw souls to themselves, but they sneer and spit poison when they think no one was listening. They dominate the charity scene, but they pick and choose which people are deserving of their help. Not content to just cling to their faith, they choose to cling just as tightly to their behaviors, insisting that God is leading them so their behavior is right, no matter what anyone says. If any of these describe you, my message is for you.Frustrated Christian2 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
You are sent to mirror the image of God to the people of earth. Is that what you want people to think God is like? Do you want people to think God is a back-biter who gleefully jeers about the "bad" people among his elite followers and friends? Do you want people to think that He only picks people
Christian Persecution in the USAA lot of Christians seem to be fond of crying about the oppression they experience in American society. My first response is to laugh, but a lot of these people take themselves very seriously so I feel like I should give them a semi-serious answer to some of the claims I've heard. By "semi-serious", I mean I will include some facts but I will still have a deriding attitude. I can only try so hard. Now usually, I don't like formatting a question-answer session against an imaginary opponent since it seems unfair, but this isn't really an imaginary opponent. All of these statements or questions have been put to me before so, as far as I'm concerned, they are fair game.Christian Persecution in the USA2 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
"Christianity is becoming endangered."
Honey, this is America. Christians are the vast majority in this country. A 2007 poll places the percentage at 78.4% Christian . The vast majority of our politicians and even our president identifies as Christian. The fact that people were
PurposeWhen the day holds no meaning, and life has no purpose.Purpose3 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
When the waves are to high and you can't seem to surface.
When you're lonely and empty inside.
When you feel that you should hide.
Push a little harder and walk another step.
You have purpose, you just haven't noticed yet.
That's So Gay!When you say "That's so GAY!"That's So Gay!2 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
Do you realize what you say?
You're saying, "Eww icky people please go away!"
But we won't; we're here.
And please lend an ear;
Stop saying "That's so gay."
When things don't go your way.
You don't know what you say,
When you say, "That's so gay."
It's really quite mean,
And rather obscene.
And not an artsy kind of obscene that makes a larger point about society.
Just the kind of obscene that's rather mean.
You don't know what it means
To be gay
In this day
When people want you to go away.
But I don't want to.
Despite the cold,
Despite the rain,
Despite fear and the hate and the pain,
I don't want to.
I like it here.
Even if I'm queer.
Modern MarriageThe debate on marriage is steeped in rhetoric, emotional speech, and vague references to tradition and precedent. Arguments are often made about the natural order of things, from the reproductive capability of male and female, to the occurrence of homosexuality in nature. The word is given many different definitions based on what each individual sees as a standard and motivation for marriage. So how do we untangle these things and understand what a proper modern definition is? Can it include same-sex couples?Modern Marriage3 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
The first argument against gay marriage is that, traditionally, marriage has been defined as between a man and a woman and this sets a precedent for all future usage of the word. True, I think you will find few people who will argue the historical heterosexual nature of marriage. I am not aware of any culture with a legal definition of marriage that included same-sex couples, and even in cultures that were acc
Lesbian.I chose this life.Lesbian.5 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
I chose to set myself up as an Outcast.
I chose to hear my best friends
Tell me that I am going to hell.
I chose to hear the words Dyke and Faggot
Spat through scornful lips in my direction.
I chose to lose the love of my Family.
To hear them say that I was sick.
That I was wrong.
I chose to place the dreams
Of marrying the person I love
In a file marked as classified
By popular demand.
I chose to have the doors of my church
Slammed in my face
Because apparently, I am the exception to
"Love your fellow man."
I chose to be chastised
For holding hands in public.
I chose to look over my shoulder
At every corner
Afraid for my life simply because
I fell in love.
I chose this life.
I chose to be a Lesbian.
Polite Hate-speechI am writing this for the many friends, friends of friends, relatives, and acquaintances who feel attacked for their beliefs that homosexuality is wrong. I have heard the complaint more times than I can count from people I know, sometimes people I respect. Often it is directed at me. "It isn't wrong to politely voice my religious views," they say. "I have as much a right to them as you have to yours. What makes your opinions more valid than mine?"Polite Hate-speech3 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
On the other hand, I will still condemn such statements as bigotry and even hate-speech. I claim they are hurtful, destructive, and socially unacceptable. Is that unreasonable? When is it appropriate to politely say "I believe homosexuality is bad"? Is it ever appropriate? Why do gays seem to flip out so much over a simple, honest, calmly-stated opinion?
I strongly suspect the lack of understanding between us stems from a difference i
Because I'm Gay-Snippet"What do you mean I can't join the tennis team at all?" I ask, irritated. I finally got the balls to try out for the tennis team in sophomore year, and he's rejecting me?Because I'm Gay-Snippet3 years ago in Introductions & Chapters More Like This
"We have no room for you on the team. I'm sorry." Coach Brown says, but he sure looks nervous. He avoids looking at me at all costs; his eyes train on the clock above my head. Then they flick towards his phone, hoping someone to call him to get him out of this situation.
"What do you mean 'no room'? You even told us at the meeting that there would be plenty of room for everyone because of how small our school is." I growl. Does he actually think the crap he is giving me actually works? I'm not stupid. I'm not stupid at all.
"Look, Mr. Martin, there were more people trying out for tennis than anticipated. I wouldn't have said that if I'd have known so many people were actually interested." He says. He looks at the earring in my left ear, then quickly averts back to the American flag that sits on his desk. America: the
Equality for allYou may think you know the difference between right and wrong,Equality for all3 years ago in Songs & Lyrics More Like This
But let me share some of my views with you in a song.
It doesn't matter if you're L, G, B, T, Q or straight,
What about equality, to love not hate?
So tell me your views, why you think it's so bad.
You can still be loved if you have two moms or two dads.
Don't preach us with the Bible, your words were heard.
But if you say God hates us, that's nonsense, absurd!
Genesis 2:24 & Ruth 1:14
Ruth loved Naomi as Adam did Eve.
Don't judge, but love as people are seen,
We're queer, we're here and ain't gonna leave.
Just deal with us liking the same sex,
If you're straight, it's fine, we give you respect..
But if you're a homophobic jerk,
We'll toy with you by giving you a wink and a smirk.
Chick-fil-AI rode past your store.Chick-fil-A3 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
Hungry and Bored
I was debating on stopping-by
My God those lines...
I still pulled into your lot
Found a spot in line.
Chicken and soda.
Extra waffle fries.
Damn the thought of it
Brought a tear to my eye,
The taste is just so divine.
Then I checked my facebook
As I waited for food.
An article on the Huffington Post,
Informed me that this line consisted of mostly homophobes.
5 million dollars donated to Gay-hate groups.
So I went next door
To get some Taco Bell.
No hate tacos
Sounded just as good.
BISEXUALWe're Not worthlessBISEXUAL2 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
Not a mistake to this world
we don't have issues
we don't have problems!
We are humans after all
We aren't in a phase
it's the truth
we are DIFFERENT
We should be loved
we should be cared for
We aren't mental
Nor are we in a phase
We shouldn't be put down
we should be accepted
We aren't wrong
nor are we stupid
We are DIFFERENT
we want to be ACCEPTED
we want to LIVE
how we feel its right
Yes we love guys
but it's not wrong
we just want to be ACCEPTED
Not be put down
Not to be hurt
especially by the ones
we thought cared about us
All we want is to be ACCEPTED
Not be judged
Not be hurt all the time
we just want to LIVE our own Life!
My HypocrisyI would fall in love too—My Hypocrisy2 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
In love with the pure white lilies
And dip dyed roses all wrapped in red silk
In love with warm chocolate eyes
Dark and deep and mysterious in the night
In love with rough calloused hands
But long gentle fingers that brush away tears
In love with the graceful body that bends enthralled at the lightest touch
And I too would fall—
For soft whispered words
And careless "I need you"s from cold and pale lips
For the silver-tongued storyteller
Whose notes provide peace and guide the lights home
For the vibrant soul
Behind the multiple facets and platinum shell
For kind and bright thoughts
Shaped as sweet hearts between white teeth
I would fall in love too
With all of this and more—
But I cannot fall in love with you.
Ask Me To Write a PoemAsk me to write a poemAsk Me To Write a Poem3 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
about kissing witches in my sleep.
Ask me to write a poem
about the bump on my middle finger
from forcing pen to paper.
Ask me to write a poem
about the discolored bruises on my knees
the poetry written in ink upon my flesh
the love in a foreign tongue on my wrist.
Ask me to write a poem
my possessive Siamese,
about my rose thorn teeth,
and the battle scars I wear like trophies.
Ask me to write a poem
about how my own words make me sick,
about how I swear I'll die by the pen.
Ask me to write a poem
about boys and peaches
and how I wish they tasted just as sweet,
about how I sanded away layer, after layer
after layerjust to see if I really bleed ink.
Ask me to write a poem.
Be Who You areI've always wanted to be different,Be Who You are4 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
The guy with the Mohawk,
The guy with the weird religion,
The guy with the weird taste in music,
The guy who didn't fit in.
But sometimes I would be "the wrong kind of different".
The guy who was awkward as hell so they all hated him,
The guy who wanted to call you cute making you think he is a creep,
The guy who didn't want to say the wrong things so you wouldn't hate him,
The guy who wasn't really there.
Other times I wanted to be "your right kind of right"
The guy who called you a gay fag because everyone else was saying it,
The guy who repressed his true identity in order to be like you,
The guy who was always made fun of because you knew he just wanted to be your friend,
The guy who took too much shit and almost killed himself because of it,
The guy who shouldn't have been.
But what I eventually realized that I should be the right kind of different.
The guy who didn't give a fuck what anyone else said about him,
The guy who said you were stupid
HaircutsINT. HAIR SALON - DAYHaircuts3 years ago in Drama More Like This
A FOUR-YEAR-OLD GIRL sits in a HAIRDRESSER'S CHAIR. She is wearing a BAGGY SWEATSHIRT and JEANS. She is male-bodied. A HAIRDRESSER cuts her LONG HAIR very SHORT. The sound of the SCISSORS is amplified. Girl looks upset.
INT. HAIR SALON - DAY
A TEN-YEAR-OLD GIRL sits in a HAIRDRESSER'S CHAIR. She is wearing a BLUE T-SHIRT and SHORTS. A HAIRDRESSER cuts her LONG HAIR very SHORT. The sound of the SCISSORS is amplified. Girl looks sad.
INT. HAIR SALON - DAY
A FOURTEEN-YEAR-OLD GIRL sits in a HAIRDRESSER'S CHAIR. She is wearing a LIGHT-BROWN SWEATER and JEANS. A HAIRDRESSER cuts her LONG HAIR very SHORT. The sound of the SCISSORS can still be heard under the dialogue. Girl is angry.
Why so glum?
I've known you since you were a kid. You're always in a bad mood.
Not always. Just whenever I have to be here.
Aren't you a bit old to be afraid of getting your hair cut?
I'm not afraid! I just want it long.
I Can Hear YouI can hear you.I Can Hear You3 years ago in Emotional More Like This
When you say we are incapable of empathy, I can hear you.
When you say we are a "burden", I can hear you.
When you claim to want the best for us, but won't let us tell you what the best really is, I can hear you.
When I read about children being electrocuted, restrained, and beaten, I can hear you.
When you say you want to "eradicate" us, I can hear you.
When I see an article about yet another murdered child, I can hear you. When I learn that no charges are being pressed, I can hear you. When I learn that charges were pressed, but the killer was acquitted, I can hear you. When I learn that the killer was convicted, but was given a slap on the wrist, I can hear you. When I find people expressing sympathy and support for the killer, I can hear you.
I hear you dismissing us dismissing me as defective, as abnormal, as less than human, not worthy of fair treatment, of compassion, of being loved.
I can hear you.
lesbianShe treads carefully down the halllesbian3 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
Trying hard to ignore them all
Glares of hatred, harsh tongues full of words of disgust
Cutting people down in their world is a must
She doesn't interact, only races to her locker
Avoiding them who judge her for loving another
To them it's sick, disgusting, wrong
To her their love is like a song
Unending, beautiful, and necessary
Hoping one day they can marry
But she is still condemned for her love
Of a girl who is surely from Heaven above
You heard correctly friends, oh yes it is true
She loves a girl, with blonde hair and eyes so blue
The only thing that keeps her going each day
Is being able to see her lover some way
So she lives her life the way she wants
Because she is happy and doesn't flaunt
Living in her world full of dreams
Trying to avoid letting out her screams
For she is happy with just thoughts of her
Which lets the school days pass by in a blur
Counting down to when she'll be in her arms once more
In her safe, warm place with
Homophobia.."Ew!" you will yell and wrinkle your nose every time you see a gay person. You will look at me like you expect me to agree with you. I don't.Homophobia..4 years ago in Emotional More Like This
"There is nothing wrong with gay people. They're just like you and me. You're so homophobic," I say to you. I hate that you are like this. I know you are my best friend but if you know if you say things like that, I feel embarrassed to be seen with you.
"I'm not homophobic. I just find gay people disgusting! " You say coldly.
"Thinking that they are disgusting is homophobic."
"So what if I AM homophobic? Why does it matter if I AM?" you question me.
I shrug my shoulders. I know that if I say something wrong, you will get mad at me and yell. I've put up with a lot from you, but not this time.
"Exactly. Why do you even care anyways? The things that I say don't apply to you anyways, do they?" You look at me strangely.
I care because it's hurtful. Not to me, but to other people. Some of my friends happen t