I have a few people spazzing about my new relationship, and it's driving me effing crazy... so I made this stamp.
Edit: The stuff after this if from earlier, but I want to say now that after a couple hours of being mad, I just want to know how to help my friend. Obviously I'm not going to break up with him to make her feel better or something, but I want to do what I can to help without sacrificing my own needs.
I can't stand how ugly jealousy can make people. They're trying to pry into something honest and beautiful and I'm pretty furious. I guess they don't take love seriously or something unless they're the ones in love? I just don't get it. I keep asking them to put themselves in my place and try to understand how I feel when they try to keep prying. One friend in particular says she "Doesn't know what it is like" which is a cry for pity that I am not willing to cater to right now. She should know it's effing annoying even if she's never had a boyfriend. Anyone else who's been bugging me is simply is "looking out for [my] safety." You know what? You guys need to step the fuck back. This is out of your hands. I'm 20 years old, and this guy isn't dangerous. Why can't you trust my judgment? Because I love him? What makes you think I'd fall in love with a bad guy without evaluating him first?
This also applies to gay couples. People are also freaking out because we're both guys. He was straight when I met him, but he fell for me, so there you go. Love can overcome sexuality.
Quit whining about how your life sucks, about how everyone has it better, about how I'm "breaking the rules," about how we're "just confused," and all that shit. I am so not in the mood to listen to anyone's sob stories; it's making me angry. I am trying to move forward with my life and you're dragging me down. How about taking a stand instead and making your life better too? Whining about my boyfriend isn't going to get you one. It's just going to make you look desperate and no one wants to date that except another desperate person and that never lasts.
Okay, seriously. Try to look at this rationally instead of freaking threatening people who care about you with wild suicidal stunts. Think about it for a goddamn minute and put things into perspective. Falling in love and dating-- as well as being single-- are the ebb and flow of life, and just because you're in an ebb right now doesn't mean you gotta disrupt someone else's flow. I cannot even express to you how annoying it is.
I am not abandoning my friends, but I will have to cut people out of my life who are destructive.
Do I think Boyfriend > Friends?
No. But a boyfriend IS a friend. I wouldn't date someone who isn't a friend of mine. You're making me choose between two friends, and I am in love with one of those friends. Who do you THINK I'm going to pick if I have to choose? The one who is supporting me every step of the way or the friend who is trying to tear apart what I care about?
So let's make this clear: I am mad at one friend in particular, but I'm not a grudge holder. I'm just sitting here hoping she'll get a clue, stop prying between us, and let the three of us be good friends. That's what I wanted from the beginning, not all of this drama. I thought maybe she didn't realize she was doing it, but she calls like every time I'm on a date with him. Srsly, my phone is gonna be off if we're making out or having sex. I am sick of folks jumping in 'cos they don't want someone else to enjoy time with the person they love.
UGH. I am just so freakin' annoyed by that right now... I'm 20, he's 18, and she's 18 too. We're way too old for this shit.