Sharing some good adviceI received some very good advice from a friend last night, and I wanted to share it, as I'm sure some of you will find use in it just as I have.
I lost a friend yesterday, in a irredeemable way. That is to say, I have no intention of wanting to repair this friendship. I went through a kind of... slew of emotions about it at first, not really knowing if I was happy or angry about all that happened.
That evening, a friend of mine called. He's currently going through a very difficult custody case over his son, so we had a long heart-to-heart, and I ended up telling him what had happened in detail. What he said to me was the defining advice that sorted my head out.
Okay, so you're angry, or upset. Either one. Why, exactly, are you feeling like that?
Well, I guess because of wasted time, really.
Well, I wasted time being his friend, and wasted even more time trying to get my other friends, who never really got along with him
Sexuality Polls?WARNING FOR THE RAMBLINGS OF A TIRED, ILL PERSON!Sexuality Polls?3 years ago in Personal More Like This
So, you may wonder why I made the polls about sexuality.
From the age of 12 to 16, I was straight. I was always straight, and always going to be straight. I only dated guys, and that was the way it was stuck in my head.
Then at 16, things started changing. I was in a relationship, but I also found myself attracted to girls. In appearance, especially, I found females more appealing than males.
At around 18 or 19, my attraction to men started fading entirely, replaced purely by an interest in women.
At 20, I ended my straight relationship to be with Jenn. By this point, I only found women attractive.
Now I'm 24, and once again, I'm on the fence. I find both men and women attractive visually, but I'm not SEXUALLY attracted to any of them. The only person I honestly find sexually attractive is Jenn. She's female, so I suppose that labels me as a lesbian, as I am quite literally only attracted to females.
But what if, in another world, Jenn
Four Years AgoFour years ago, something happened that completely changed the course of my life in a very real, very noticeable way.Four Years Ago3 years ago in Personal More Like This
On the 19th of January 2008, I hadn't really intended to do anything to make my life change so drastically. There was no plan, no preconception, nothing. Things just happened the way they happened, and I wouldn't change it for the world.
On the night of the 19th of January 2008, tealpirate and I started going out.
From that day on, my life was changed. I'd gone from a previously unhappy relationship to one I now was full of hope, excitement and expectation. My previous relationship had me feeling worn out, disillusioned and unhappy by three years or so into the relationship, yet with Jenn, I'm four years in, and still as crazily in love as the day I met her.
So, here's to you, Jenn, and the four fabulous years of life you have already gifted me with. I hope to continue them for as long as I live, and can only hope to bring you the same measure of happiness that you
Good News StoriesReading through the BBC yesterday and today, there's a lot of doom and gloom, despite being so close to Christmas, which is one of our most festive seasons!Good News Stories3 years ago in Personal More Like This
So, I went on a search for GOOD news to share with you all. Here are my favourites (edited to be shorter, but you can search their titles on Google for more info!)
Once homeless Miami man earns a Masters degree
After several arrests, drug addiction and being homeless, a Miami man has overcome the odds to graduate from FIU with a Master's degree in social work.
Out of thousands of graduates, only one -- 50-year-old Aaron Alvin Sr. -- got a standing ovation at Tuesday night's graduation ceremony.
"I wanted to make sure I was in a position to help people and so I went ahead and got my Master's," Alvin said. "I just continued to pursue something that was bigger and better and ended up here."
Alvin was arrested several times for drugs, grand theft auto, and domestic violence. He was also homeless for a time.
He said he never,
The Value of Good WritingWe all typo.The Value of Good Writing3 years ago in Personal More Like This
There are all words we don't know how to spell, or have a habit of spelling incorrectly.
We all create grammatical errors.
These things I accept. I like to think I'm quite a good writer, but I still fall into these mistakes as well. However, I try to keep all my written pieces and correspondences as well-written as possible. Why?
Because when I am confronted with someone elses writing, poorly written, with atrocious spelling, non-existent grammar and dreaded 'txt tlk', I instantly lose the desire to read it.
There - Their - They're
Your - You're
Accept - Except
Things like that also irritate me.
If you've ever written me a message or note in terrible use of English, and haven't received a reply... I'm probably ignoring it.
It's a pet peeve. Whether it's a justified peeve or not, I have no idea, but it's something that has always irritated me. I was part of the generation that didn't have mobile phones as a kid. People first started getting cell phones for personal use (bef
Unusual Adoption: What would you do?-------Previous Journal-------Unusual Adoption: What would you do?3 years ago in Personal More Like This
Firstly, thanks for the responses on the Assisted Suicide topic. It was great to read them all, including those with opinions that conflicted with my own, a several religious perspectives to the subject.
If nothing else, I hope it sparked some interesting thoughts and conversations for you all.
This subject was suggested to me by UniquelyOdd. While I couldn't find a new article directly relating to the case she mentioned seeing in a documentary, I did find other background info. So, please read this before voting in the poll!
In China, part of their population is subject to the One-Child Policy, which limits families to having only one child, to try and control their increasing population. Families found to go over this limit often find government officials coming to their homes, and taking their children off to orphanages. From here, they are adopted for the price of a few hundred dollars per child. Not o
A Week in dA Related - #013 OverviewA Week in dA Related - #0133 years ago in Deviant Events More Like This
A Week in dA Related is a weekly news article series that aims to bring you the most important and fun deviantART and dA Related news from the previous week. It also includes a small feature from each sub-gallery.
If you have any deviantART Related news you'd like to share, shoot a note to bradleysays.
This issue covers July 9th to July 16th, 2011.
How Do You Drink Dr. Pepper Contest
Show dA how you drink Dr Pepper using any medium of visual art, other than photography or three-dimensional media. The winner will be turned into a mural, so make sure you'd look great painted on a wall.
BETA TESTERS: You can fave journals now!
The ability to fave journals is now here for BETA t
Hating ArtI posted a poll recently, asking how many people dislike their own artwork. The results of the poll shows that sadly most people don't like their art either sometimes or all of the time.Hating Art3 years ago in Personal More Like This
I think this is a very sad thing, but it's something that I share with these people too. I know many of my artistic friends also dislike their art also. It seems to be a common thing among artists. I think the reason for this is that we know exactly what we're weak with and we don't know how to improve, or we compare our art with others, or we don't receive enough positive feedback, or we always remember the negative comments we get for our work and how they will always stay with us, no matter how many nice comments we get.
I really think negative comments towards our art (or anything in general) can mean much more to us than 10, 20, or even 100 positive comments do. They stand out and stick in our minds for much longer. They make us worry, and worry turns to doubt, and doubt turns to frustration and t
HEY GUISE, I HERD YOU LIEK POINTS? CONTEST!!AND PRETTY POSTCARDS, PAINTED PICTURES AND PANDAS!!HEY GUISE, I HERD YOU LIEK POINTS? CONTEST!!2 years ago in Deviant Events More Like This
(Actually, no real pandas, but it fit with my fabulous alliteration..)
So, what you need to do: Draw any of my original characters! Pretty easy, right? There's no theme (unless you want one ), so you're pretty free- as long as you keep the character recognisable, haha. When you're done, you can post a link here or Note me, whatever. ^_^
You can draw as few or many of my OCs as you like, and you're welcome to draw them with your own
You can re-design their clothes and hair if you feel the need.
It must be new, original work. No bases. (That's kind of my only definite rule.)
Just visual stuff, puriisu, no lit this time! D:
You may enter as many pictures as you like, but quality over quantity! I'd prefer one awesome, colourful pic than two quick sketches
Its cool to see them interacting, bein
Application Guidelines Application GuidelinesApplication Guidelines3 years ago in Personal More Like This
The group is open to applying any time. So take your time. There's no need to rush an application!
Rules for Acceptance
All work featured on your application must have been drawn by you and no one else. This means that we will decline apps with commissioned work, tracings, or copy and pasted images that do not belong to you. Small things such as free textures, patterns and brushes are fine as long as you credit the original artist who made them. Using stock references for poses are also fine, but once again, please credit the original stock provider.
Please colour everything in your application. Base colours with no shading is fine, but we do not want to see unfinished sketches or lineart. That said, please avoid using lined, dirty, or crumpled paper. Please do your best to erase the background behind your character instead of pasting them onto the
2012 Plans, Girl Scouts, and Next Discussion Topic-------2012 Plans-------2012 Plans, Girl Scouts, and Next Discussion Topic3 years ago in Personal More Like This
Now that I'm a bit more settled into 2012, I'm getting my head around the year a little better. Despite my assurances to myself each year that I'll "take it easier next year", I've once again gone completely against that... and it's only January!
To give you an idea of my year, here's an image of my "in a year" calendar. The dates I already have plans (either definite or yet to confirm) are coloured with a green star:
Already, things are starting to fill up... and it's only going to get fuller! At least it keeps things interesting
So! As for things happening soon, in February I'll be attending the SFX Weekender in North Wales. This is by far the BEST convention I have ever been to, and I've only been once! With luck, this years event will match or outstrip 2011! All the accommodation passes have now sold out, but if you do want to check it out for a day, or stay in off-site accommodation, th
DA PopularityWarning.....wall of text ahead... :iconimdeadplz:DA Popularity3 years ago in Personal More Like This
Its something I find rather interesting and I know there are a lot of varying opinions on the subject. My thoughts on this where inspired by a recent poll and at the risk of people telling me once again that I am boasting or obsessed with views *eye roll* I will tell you my take on the whole thing.
DA is a diverse place where artists can come and share their creations but in the community there seems to be the misconception that talent/skill = popularity and if you're not the best then you don't deserve the exposure. Praise is given to those who make original work and those who do fanart are considered taking the cheap road to fame. But why is fanart more popular? simply because its more widely known and easier to relate to. Its that simple. If you see a fanart of your favourite character you are more likely to be interested opposed to someone's original character. When you draw a fanart you are drawing on the pre existing fa
Metrocon and "Gay Panic"-------Metrocon-------Metrocon and "Gay Panic"3 years ago in Personal More Like This
So! The ball is really rolling for Metrocon now. I'm starting to get panel times together provisionally, as well as our panel content.
For those of you attending Metrocon... I always find that I rush to the evening parties, and never end up staying long. So, I was considering putting in one "late" panel at 9-10pm on Friday night, perhaps to screen videos that we haven't shown before, and generally have a bit of a laugh. Would people be interested in this, or do you prefer to go to the parties?
Let me know!
-------The 'Gay Panic' Defence-------
This was suggested as a discussion topic by VanillaAutumn, and I felt it was one that could do with being publicised.
A loophole in Queensland [Australia] law allows people accused of murder to defend themselves in court by claiming "gay panic" -- that is, if someone who they think is gay "comes onto" th
A Brand New DeviantIDMorning Beta FolkA Brand New DeviantID3 years ago in Personal More Like This
Today we've got a shiny new deviantID widget for you to try out
As it stands, the info on your page that informs visitors who you are and what you're interested in, is split into two widgets. deviantID and Devious Info.
This is a little unnecessary, so we've created a brand new deviantID widget that merges both of them into one!
Not only that, but the new widget will even help you along and make it easier for you to fill in all your info
How do I try it?
Simply edit either your deviantID or Devious Info widget and you'll get a little notice asking if you want to upgrade to the new deviantID
Accept that you want to upgrade, and *poof* you'll have the new deviantID widget with all your old data copied over
I don't like it, I want my old one back
Firstly, if there's any way you think we could improve the new widget let us know!
But if you still want your old widgets back simply click the "Clear Module Data" button
For the Love of Long Haired Men...:DAn article featuring handsome long-haired men, because they need more love!For the Love of Long Haired Men...:D3 years ago in Art Features More Like This
And because we all know how sexy they are :iconloveloveplz:
I know you will like it!
:thumb204119988:Bart by S1v1
:thumb181914136:Pergot II by ValeriyaSegalArtisian by Haste-Malaise
:: MetallslaveRandom006 :: by Metallslave Whitman's Apprentice by SorenSotoThe week's shopping by Revelio
Mr. J Nava by charleshildreth wind in your hair 2 by xPorcelainHeartxLove me not?... by zakharova
The train... by Flush-the-Fashion :thumb216171867:Thought bubble by Revelio
:thumb227245946:DoC_Vincent_V. by nemurutenshi-yueMan in Cape by PHOTOGRAPHERchris
Poseidon by Kifer
Drawings & Paintings
:thumb89857044:Castlevania : Alucard Rev.2.0 by GouzinPrince dragon, second book by MarcSimonettiJia Yin the Covenanter 3 by mlcamaro
:thumb146761994::thumb191899641:LongestJourney:Waiting by nathie
Fairly prince by EstheryuButterfly by sweetcrescentwe are family by Digi-M
DEVID - Alone by AikurisuMichal (commission) by Ilojleen:thumb171445170:
Native American by Thubakabraspotlight by hel999Age of 21 by yuuki-ri
About MeI had a note from someone that I read today who asked about getting to know me as a person better. I thought this was a pretty good idea! I think a lot of people see me as just a cosplayer, just a youtuber, or even just as the characters I cosplay and act as. Obviously, this is far from the truth. Cosplay is just a small part of my life compared to everything else I've done and wish to do.About Me3 years ago in Personal More Like This
I found this good Q&A on the Humor That Works website, so figured I'd use it to help people get to know me... if you want to! XD Feel free to steal this quiz and use it yourself.
== What was your favorite food when you were a child?
I was a really fussy eater when I was a kid. I pretty much lived on spreadable cheese sandwiches and biscuits (cookies, to you Americans)!
== What's the #1 most played song on your iPod?
Oh lord... I kind of go through phases of listening to one song a million times until it bores me XD I guess a recurring one would be "This Ain't A Scene" by
The Judges' Results Are In!We received thousands of entries and tens of thousands of votes on those entries for our Logo T-Shirt Design Challenge. Deviants told us which entries they would wear, and the top 50 most selected and qualified entries were used as the pool from which our panel of expert judges determined the three winning designs. Check them out below!The Judges' Results Are In!3 years ago in Personal More Like This
A Place For Art by Hellobaby
deviantART T-Shirt Design by Metros2soul
Contest Entry by Sunima
Each of the winners will receive $1500 CASH for their design, 25 units of the finished t-shirt, and their design featured in the deviantWEAR shop!
Want to buy one of the shirts? They will be for sale in the deviantWEAR shop very soon. Be sure to watch deviantARTGear&
Dancing Business Cat - Race to End Animal CrueltyDancing Business Cat - Race to End Animal Cruelty3 years ago in Deviant Events More Like This
:icontopicalityancing Business Feline:icontopicality:
A bandwagon that has been turned to a charity!
What started as innocent fun to use Topicality's avatar, quickly spread into other deviants to use her avatar :icontopicality: as their own.
Now, Topicality has made this bandwagon to a charity!
For every deviant that uses her Dancing Business Feline Topicality as their own avatar, she will donate 50 cents to the ASPCA, The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals.
Everyone is free to join!
To use her icon:
Right click on her avatar :icontopicality: and save the image (gif file) in your computer.
Or click this thumb and hit download!
Go to your profile page and hover over your avatar. A 'change your avatar' and pencil mode appears. Click on it! (You can also change it through your settings page)
In the 'Upload Avatar' window, select the feline image that you
yaoi rant, re-written and fixed.-OK, first;yaoi rant, re-written and fixed.3 years ago in Emotional More Like This
I will have to apologize for my horrible english, since it's not my first language. But I have fixed a lot of the mistakes, and got a little better perspective of things, instead of just blaming the fangirls all the time, like I did before. I hope you can see I've gotten a little more mature, than what I used to be for two years ago.
Second, I really do not mind yaoi at all, I can actually enjoy it to some extent, but there is many things that bothers me about it...
And warning, I will probably seem a bit hypocritical in this speech.
I don't like yaoi because;
1.) The main character gets raped only to fall in love with their rapist.
That is something I don't get. And why do people like it?
I get it's a common sexual fantasy for a lot of people, it's ok as long as it's all up in your head, but still it bothers me a lot when it starts to get fetishtized like it gets.
And why not think of people that has been raped in the process? I myself know someone in my family who has bee
On The Subject of LabelsOne of the recurring comments given in my previous journal was "Why do we need to label ourselves at all?", or words to that effect. There are many of you who believe NO-ONE needs a label.On The Subject of Labels3 years ago in Personal More Like This
I both agree and disagree.
I agree, because I think you're right that we don't need to define to ourselves what we are by putting a label on it. I shouldn't say to myself "I'm gay. Therefore, I only am attracted to women." I think that if, in your head, you have a defined, labelled view of what you are, you start conforming yourself around that label. I'm sure many of you have heard stories of men and women who came out, then later admitted to feeling pressured into staying gay because they'd defined themselves as such to so many people. Conforming yourself around a social definition like that cannot be healthy.
But at the same time, I disagree against the idea that we don't need labels in this world at all. We do need them... we just don't need to place extensive mean
Personal LibraryQuite a few times I've been asked what books I like and could I suggest any good reads. Well, here is a journal with some of my top authors and books for you to consider.Personal Library3 years ago in Personal More Like This
I will start by saying that my two favourite genres are historical and gothic horror. I do deleve into fantasy, but generally I will only read a fantasy novel if it's not set in modern times.
I also tend towards first person and will not read a book if the protagonist is female. So brace yourselves!
SALAMANDER by Thomas Wharton.
This is my favourite book and for many good reasons. It is set in an alternative Victorian era, and follows the life of a book maker called Nicolas as he travels around the world trying to make an infinite book. (A book with no end and no start).
The narrative is overly colourful and the author takes full advantage of the readers senses, especially that of smell and sight. The short narratives play like a cinematic reel in the mind.
Overall, it's a book about books which contains some very hea
News to know: beware of phishing scams!There is currently an individual or group of individuals who have created a fake deviantART login page, and they're using hijacked accounts to continue to share the URL of the fake page.News to know: beware of phishing scams!3 years ago in Personal More Like This
Please spread the word:
If you click a link that directs you through the deviantART "There Be Monsters Out There" outgoing link page and you unexpectedly return back to deviantART while logged out, check the URL of where you are before entering any of your details.
The proper URL for the actual deviantART login page is: deviantart.com/users/login. (Note that there is nothing between "deviantart" and "com" except for a "dot.")
If you find yourself unexpectedly logged out after clicking an offsite link, immediately check the URL to see if anything extra has been added -- this would indicate that you are in fact on a third-party website masquerading as deviantART. For example, if the URL reads something like deviantart.[som
GARY STU PARODY: PART 1SO LIKE, ONE DAY DARKNESS DEATH THE HUMAN WAS BEING ALL ANGSTY AND STUFF WHILST IN AGARY STU PARODY: PART 14 years ago in Fan Fiction More Like This
FLOWER FIELD WHEN HE SAW A MAGIC UNICORN PIXIE FAIRY SHIP FLY PAST AND THEN HE WAS ALL
LIKE "I MUST DESTROY THAT SHIP AND AVENGE MY FAMILY" AND SO THEN HE USED HIS WINGS TO FLY
UP AND DESTROY THE SHIP USING HIS SWORD HOW COOL IS THAT? AND THEN HE FLEW DOWN AND
DODGED ALL THE RUBBLE AND THEN HE NOTICED THAT ANOTHER SHIP WAS COMING AND HE TRIED
TO USE HIS SWORD BUT IT DIDN'T WORK SO HE USED HIS FIREBALL ATTACK AND IT BLEW UP YAY.
AND THEN HE NOTICED EVEN MORE SHIPS COMING, AND SO HE FLEW UP TO ONE AND BLEW IT UP,
AND THEN MORE AND MORE CAME AND HE DESTROYED EVEN MORE AND WAS KILLING UNICORN PIXIE
FAIRIES EVERYWHERE AND THEN THE UNICORN PIXIE FAIRY LEADER CAME DOWN AND SAID WHY ARE
YOU DOING THIS? AND THEN DARKNESS DEATH THE HUMAN SAID "BECAUSE I CAN, YOUR SPECIES
KILLED MY FAMILY WHEN I WAS YOUNG AND SO I AM AVENGING MY FAMILY"
"OH OK" SAID THE UNICORN PIXIE FAIRY LEADER AND THEN HE SAID "I WILL KILL YOU
NM Fuel - Never Forget...I don't like being a bug Pokemon. I don't like being small and young. All the big birds chase me. It's really scary. But mamma says that she will keep me safe. I love my mamma. When I have a bad tummy, mamma always rubs it better with her feelers. At night she sings me lullabies; my favourite is 'there were two birds sat on a stone; one flew away, and then there was one; the other flew after, and then there was none; and so the poor stone was left all alone'. Mamma says I'll never be left alone. She and papa will always be there. She promised.NM Fuel - Never Forget...3 years ago in Short Stories More Like This
My tummy feels strange. It's all warm and tingly. The rest of my body is starting to feel that way too. I asked mommy, and she said that my body will change soon. That scares me. I don't want to change! She said it won't be bad - I'll get tired and not move for a while, but then I'll grow to look like mommy or daddy! I hope I look like mommy; Mommy's really pretty. But daddy sparkles when he flies, and makes everything look really glittery. Looki
aw yiss cONTESTok so we are going to have an official contest yeaH!!aw yiss cONTEST2 years ago in Personal More Like This
DEADLINE IS JULY 25TH
the objective is basically just butts.
draw your character's ~plush butt~ and send it to us, and we'll add it as an entry!!
- pls don't use lineart even if ther is a butt lineart becus we want to see your character's butt in yoUR view
- it can b a plump butt a squishy butt w/e fits yo butt thoughts
- doN'T STEAL CHARACTERS PLS TY
- u can submit up to 5 entries i guES
- other common sense stuff ya
- if u get first place you get a bUTT TROPHY from munchkrin no rly u get a butt trophy pixELED by her i mean who wouldn't want that stuff aw yiss (the trophy will have ur name username engraved on it, and the butt on the trophy will b ur characters butt in *~*gold*~*)
- if u get second place you get 2 have a butt icon from fox--butts
- if u get third place u get a pat on the back for good effort and a picture of a butt off the internet picked by fox--butts