Alternatives to self-harmAlternatives to self-harm4 years ago in Articles & Interviews More Like This
Self-harm is when someone deliberately hurts or injures him or herself. This can take a number of forms including:
* taking overdoses of tablets or medicines
* punching oneself
* throwing their bodies against something
* pulling out hair or eyelashes
* scratching, picking or tearing at one's skin causing sores and scarring
* inhaling or sniffing harmful substances
Some people self-harm on a regular basis while others do it just once or a few times. For some people it is part of coping with a specific problem and they stop once the problem is resolved. Other people self-harm for years whenever certain kinds of pressures or feelings arise.
A few people who self-harm may go on to commit suicide - generally thesis not what they intend to do. In fact, self-harm can be seen as the 'opposite' of suicide as it is often a way of coping with life rather than of giving up.
There are many methods that are meant to help when the urge to SI overcomes you, some work, some don't. O
Social function of rape mythsSocial function of rape myths4 years ago in Articles & Interviews More Like This
I have written a few times about the myths surrounding the topic of rape, but I've never written about why these myths have survived for so long and the social functions that they serve. Rape myths allow people to feel safe by letting them believe that rape rarely happens, and that when it does, it is because the person secretly wanted it or that they were "asking for it". The myths enable us to maintain the belief that we live in a just world. They allow us to believe we can prevent future rapes. And in some cases they even maintain the Adam-and-Eve tradition of our culture, in which man s believed to be the innocent victim of the evil temptress women.
Myths provide a false security
When we are confronted with the story of a rape, the easiest way to maintain our feelings of safety and invulnerability and to believe that what we are hearing is indeed a work of fiction, not a true story. If we believe "many rape reports are false", then we significantly lower our perceived chance
Getting Over It"Get over it"Getting Over It4 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
You say it as though its a choice.
Like I choose to sing the blues everyday.
You speak as though I'm in control.
Why choose to feel insane?
You think it's all so easy?
Then why feel this way in the first place?
It's not as simple as just willing it all away.
The feelings embed themselves in your brain.
Those feelings turn into thoughts,
You never want to say.
The thoughts turn to actions,
To chase the feelings away.
Its a never ending cycle
Thats not so easy to break.
women, rape and legal systemwomen, rape and legal system4 years ago in Articles & Interviews More Like This
For a legal system to be fair it is vital that the rights of the defendant to a fair trial are upheld, but it is equally important for the complainants to obtain justice. The rights of both defendants and complainants must be balanced. Women should be enabled to obtain justice without jeopardising the rights of the accused. In rape trials though this is rarely the case, the defendant is too advantaged, allowing men guilty of sexual assault to go free.
Over the last few decades, the legal system has taken a rapping with freeing defendant after defendant following wrongful conviction: the Guildford four, the Birmingham six and Judith Ward, to name a few. As shocking as these miscarriages are, miscarriages of justice resulting from wrongful acquittals should not be forgotten. It is an injustice not only when the innocent are convicted but also when the guilty go free, or when a case never gets to court at all.
The plight of the rape victim remains as acute as ever. They are vie
I Dream of SuicideI dream of suicideI Dream of Suicide4 years ago in Traditional Fixed Forms More Like This
The grim determination of the blade into the vein.
The wondering if these thoughts are turning you insane
The thud of heavy bones as the chair is kicked away.
The relief of the knowledge you won't live another day
The acrid smell of plastic as the bullet leaves the gun.
The final acceptance that there's nowhere left to run
The tremble of your fingers as you pop the tablets out.
The gulp of every mouthful shows the absence of your doubt.
The sudden jolt of morning with the alarm clock bleep.
The disappointment: it was not death, it was only sleep.
HauntedI gaze around this room. There's never less, never more. The orderly peeks in again, and I pretend to sleep. He makes sure I'm breathing still. These constant incursions would drive me crazy, if I wasn't there already. I can't blame them for checking. I don't want to be here. I don't want...to be. They took everything away from me; everything to cut or gouge or squeeze. All that's left is the pain; the twisting, the wrenching, the empty. That's all that's left of me. "A B C D E F G "Haunted4 years ago in Free Verse More Like This
I don't see an end, but I remember how it started. How betrayal and naïveté would leave me here to die, without remorse, or the batting of an eye. I'm seventeen, and I was so far ahead. I exceeded every expectation, blew through hurdles in my wake. I had it all in front of me, a future bright for all to see. Though my daddy said I wasn't his; drew lines throughout my memory. A beautiful boy said he loved me. My knight, my heart, my everything. He promised me eternity. I trusted him with all
Common thinking errorsCommon thinking errors4 years ago in Articles & Interviews More Like This
common thinking errors caused by abuse/rape/trauma
* When you believe the you could have known what was going to happen before it was possible to know it.
* Believing that you overlooked certain "signs"; such as a thought, feeling, dream, intuition, etc.
* Sometimes people view prior "signs" as omens as it can give an illusion of control over the event
* Some people will subconsciously alter their memories of an event to include these "omens" as it can be less painful to blame oneself for missing these "signs" than to feel powerless.
2.Confusing the possibility that you could have prevented the event with the belief that you caused it.
* Often hindsight bias leads to the mistaken belief that you "could somehow have prevented" the event, and therefore you "actually caused it".
3. Failing to consider or accept this biological truth: