The opinions in this journal are my own and you don't have to agree. If you don't, that's fine. If you do, thanks!
Body shaming seems to be a new thing on the list of pastimes for people who have nothing better to do. It doesn't matter what type of body you have, there's going to be someone who thinks it's not good enough. Even if you have the stereotypical 'perfect' Barbie body, someone is going to hate it and think you're ugly. If you have a large chest, you look like 'a whore'. If you have rock hard abs, you look too 'athletic and muscular'. If a man doesn't have huge biceps and pecs, they look like a 'pansy'. If you have a soft tummy with a bit of pudge, you're too fat. If you're naturally thin, you're 'anorexic and need a sandwich'.
Now, I'm not supporting morbid obesity or extreme thinness in any way, because being too big or too thin is obviously a threat to health. I don't care what you look like, but nobody needs their bodies to be damaged, of course.
Why can't we just be healthy and happy? Who cares if someone's bigger or thinner than the next person? What does it matter? Why is it that we're so preoccupied with weight and image? I know, I'm a hypocrite, because I've strived so hard to be stick-thin. Why? I have no idea. I guess to achieve some form of 'happiness' and satisfaction with myself. I and many others need to realize that happiness doesn't come with being a certain size. Happiness comes from within, as clichéd as that sounds. Happiness comes from confidence and loving yourself for who you are. Because when you love yourself, nobody else's acceptance matters. Others' glances and glares don't mean anything, because you know you're awesome. I guess that's one reason I made No-More-Ana
, to attempt to show people that not everyone will shame you for your body, and that there are still some out there who will accept you the way you are. All I expect is for people to be healthy. That's all.
I know it's hard, though, when the world shames us. I recall watching an OOTD video that this plus-sized girl made, and she was absolutely gorgeous and flaunting it. Then I scroll down to see comments saying things like 'fatass', 'ewwww', and other childish things. If you're going to give a negative opinion, at the very least have the decency to be mature about it. A couple days ago, I caught myself feeling down because I read that size 6 (American size) is considered the lowest size to still be considered plus-sized. I'm a size 6. I remember when size 6 was what every girl wanted to be. Now it's 'plus-sized'. Bullshit. Bull. Shit.
We can't all look how you want us to look, and it's time everyone got over that and grew up. Leave the "ur ugly" comments in the kindergarten schoolyard.
Anyway guys, I know you see this type of thing everywhere on the internet, but I'd rather have a higher number of self-acceptance posts than posts telling us we should look like anything but ourselves. Just remember that as long as you're okay with you
, all the judgmental looks and stupidity will fly right by you.
Love you guys.