APRIL - Friendship - Bullying/Intimidation ISSUE #2
I've started to receive some contributions to the project and so far so good! In this second issue I'm having an interview with PaleAuthor about her poem and her personal experiences with bullying, facts from kidshealth.org, some featured deviations and other awesome stuff. If you'd like to participate yourself, please read the introduction journal, and if you have any questions don't hesitate to ask!
Introduction Journal: aimyee.deviantart.com/journal/…
Friendship - Bullying/Intimidation Issue #1: aimyee.deviantart.com/journal/…
Interview with PaleAuthor
I wrote it, because I wanted to show to people how much bullying hurts me from the inside. I have always been against bullying and wanted to be nice to everyone. It feels bad when you get bullied for the fact that you were too nice. It's like punishment for being good. And thanks~
It depends on the person and how harsh the bullying is. If bullying happens every day and it reduces the person's self-esteem or even turns it into self hatred, suicidal thoughts are very possible. I got suicidal thoughts when I was 16 for the fact that I didn't feel like there was any point for living anymore. Part of the problem was that I thought that everybody hated me and that thought came from bullying.
Bullying is just something that exists because we people can't accept others the way they are. Also we are all very different. I still believe that bullying is unacceptable and wished I could just end it, but there is no way to get rid of it completely. There are only ways to reduce the amount of it in the world. Fashion is not one of those ways.
I was socially discriminated. I was called disgusting and ugly and got laughed at almost about everything I did. I never got really physically bullied although I was afraid of that often especially with the boys.
After elementary it just stopped as the other students weren't noticing me anymore.
Yes. I was traumatized badly by my experience. I have still panic attacks in social situations and fear crowds of people and think whenever people are laughing they are laughing at me. It makes finding friends extremely difficult in real life.
Depends on the situation. Usually I want to interfere but I don't know how, so I won't really do anything. It has also a lot to do with my social trauma and the fact that I'm extremely shy. What I think that people should do when they see something like that happening, is to try and help the person getting bullied with everything they have got.
It's not your fault and never think that way. You have to always put the bully below you and rise yourself up in your mind, because that is the truth. We are all amazing and we shouldn't let other people control our lives too much.
Sorry for my bad English, I hope I didn't traumatize anyone.
I think it's a very cool project. I'll be looking forward to see the other topics.
Thank you PaleAuthor for this interview and for being so open and honest about this. This is exactly what Encourage Awareness is all about. By the way, your English is great! For everybody else, don't forget to look at her other poems!
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How Does Bullying Make People Feel?
"One of the most painful aspects of bullying is that it is relentless. Most people can take one episode of teasing or name calling or being shunned at the mall. However, when it goes on and on, bullying can put a person in a state of constant fear.
Guys and girls who are bullied may find their schoolwork and health suffering. Amber began having stomach pains and diarrhea and was diagnosed with a digestive condition called irritable bowel syndrome as a result of the stress that came from being bullied throughout ninth grade. Mahfooz spent his afternoons hungry and unable to concentrate in class because he was too afraid to go to the school cafeteria at lunchtime.
Studies show that people who are abused by their peers are at risk for mental health problems, such as low self-esteem, stress,depression, or anxiety. They may also think about suicide more.
Bullies are at risk for problems, too. Bullying is violence, and it often leads to more violent behavior as the bully grows up. It's estimated that 1 out of 4 elementary-school bullies will have a criminal record by the time they are 30. Some teen bullies end up being rejected by their peers and lose friendships as they grow older. Bullies may also fail in school and not have the career or relationship success that other people enjoy." - kidshealth.org
It is by far the WORST way you can kill someone.... The many suicides caused this year were due to bullying. I was a victim of bullying, it was when i used to go to public school. There were boys in the hallway, and when i went to go get a drink of water, i was called the B Word for no reason what's so ever.... I looked around at them, wondering who said it, and i noticed it was a tall wide boy, who has called me that, and another boy called me that again and added "Like yo mama".
Now i was really ticked off by that, and i started crying my eyes out, and i screamed at them. This wasn't the first time i was bullied. And the teachers tried to calm me down, and they talked to the boys.... But here's the thing: The boys decided to LIE, and said that I just started yelling and screaming for no reason. Guess who they believed....
Bullying to make yourself feel better is NOT okay.More than 70% of lives lost this and last year was due to bullying. The recent suicide of a girl in public school in this state was caused by bullying..... But here's the thing: Suicide is NEVER the answer. If you are being bullied currently, or WERE bullied and thought of suicide. Remember these words: Suicide is NEVER the answer. It will affect everyone you love's lives FOREVER.
Bullying can affect the life of that person, and even lead them to suicide.
See, people. Suicide is NEVER, EVER the answer.And for those people who ARE bullying someone.... You need to STOP, You are putting that persons life in danger! You might think its funny, and you know the saying "it's only funny until someone gets hurt"? Are you trying to complete A GOAL?!!! To laugh at that person till they hurt themselves or even KILL themselves? Here's a saying i made up: "It's NEVER funny, especially if that person gets hurt!".
And here's a tip to people who are being bullied: Tell someone, and if they don't do something the first time, keep telling them till they do! If that person threatens "If you tell us, we'll make your life miserable", dont be scared, tell anyway, and tell that they've threatened you with whatever they said if you tell someone. And the most important part: SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER!!!!! You may feel nobody wants you in this world, but people DO need you, there ARE people out there who care about you A LOT. So if you are thinking of hurting yourself in any way, remember these words: SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER!
And for people who see someone being bullied, here are a lot of ways you can help: Don't EVER walk away from someone who's being bullied, stand up for them and get them out of that situation! If you DO walk away, make sure it's to get a teacher if there isn't one currently in the area. If you see someone being bullied, do NOT join the bullies, that'll make you one of the bullies.
And for those who are wondering "How many suicides are caused each year due to bullying?" Well, picture this: If you had a tree for every amount of deaths each year due to bullying, you would be living in a forest. And there is all kinds of bullying out there that can cause suicides, there's Physical bullying, verbral bullying, Relational aggression, Sexual bullying, Prejudical bullying, and the most common one: Cyberbullying. If you think Cyberbullying is not real bullying, you are DEAD WRONG. Anything with the word bullying in it is bullying, no matter what, and even though Relational aggression doesn't have the word bullying in it, it still is bullying.
It's never okay to bully someone because: They are a different race, they have a disability,they cry alot, they are transgender, they're gay or lesbian, they like a certain kind of band that nobody else might be into, their weight, their---Also you guys know those shootings that happen once in a while, the reason those happen most of the time, is because of bullying. I was watching the news the other day, and a kid got arrested because he said "I wish i had a gun to teach you bullies a lesson". He didn't bring any gun at all, but he said he WISHED, and HE gets arrested, when the bullies should've been. Bullying can lead to shootings, it'll drive the victim CRAZY, and it will take control of their minds, all they will think of is two words: Death, revenge. A school near my old one had to go into lock down because someone was bringing a gun there, and it was RIGHT NEXT to my school, and my prediction is they wanted to get rid of the bullies. The reason that people are causing shootings most of the time, is because of bullying. Bullying can affect the mind, the life, and the actions of the victim.
okay forget it,
IT'S NEVER OKAY TO BULLY, PERIOD!!!!! IT'S NOT! IT NEVER IS EITHER, I WANNA GET THE WORD OUT RIGHT NOW, BULLYING IS NOT OKAY, AND NEVER WILL BE.
We can make a change, we can stop bullying, but I know that we can't do it alone. It is my fondest wish to stop bullying, and I know i can't stop it alone, i need as much help as possible.
There are MANY ways we can stop bullying, but the important part is to Stay Strong. Keep moving, Follow your dreams, and stay strong! We can stop bullying together!
Thank you for listening to me, and I hope my speech opened up many of your eyes about how much bullying can affect peoples lives. And once more: "It's NEVER funny, especially if someone gets hurt!"
Discussion Questions and AnswersYou find some answers in the comments section of the previous issue
Questions for discussion and/or inspiration:
- Why do people bully each other?
- How to prevent bullying? How can you prevent?
- If you see someone being teased, how do you react?
- Is bullying a common problem at workplaces? Why?
- How to show support to someone who's a victim of bullying?
- How to help someone who's considered a bully?
- About friendship: What is a friend to you?
About bullyingThis is for http://aimyee.deviantart.com/journal/PROJECT-EARN-bullying-intimidation-1-446985615
As my contrubutation to this, I'm going to be answering some questions about bullying.
Why do people bully each other?
Well, people bully each other for a lot of things. It could because they're mad, they want to get revenge, or simply because they don't like someone.
How to prevent bullying? How can you prevent?
You can prevent bullying by just avoiding the bullys. Tell someone you trust about the bullys so that they can stand up for you. And if you know someone that is bullied, you should stand up to the bully. Tell the bully to go away and stop hurting the other person.
If you see someone being teased, how do you react?
Simply tell them to stop. Even teasing might offend someome and start an argument.
Is bullying a common problem at workplaces? Why?
At my school, it's not really "common" but there are people that get bullyed. Like me. It probobly not that common because most people
PROJECT EARN /bullying, intimidation #1PROJECT EARN
April: Friendship - Bullying/Intimidation #1
First issue of Project Earn and I really look forward to this. A lot of people have shown interest and support and that's awesome! Thank you!
This month we're dealing with bullying and/or intimidation, however, I also want to discuss friendship and how we value our friends and family, what is a good friend? etc. You can submit a deviation with something that relate to this topic - a photo, a painting, a poem, whatever you'd like, or you can write a journal with your opinions, your own experiences or facts about the topic. I'm open for everything! When you've done that, you note me with a link to your deviation or journal and I will feature it in different ways during this month. Since this project is completely new, this is more of a test-month to see if it actually works!
Some statistics about bullying:
It's the most common form of violence in our society, 15-3
About friendship: What is a friend to you?
A true, true friend helps a friend in need. A friend will be there to help you see. A true, true friend helps a friend in need to see the light that shines from a true, true friend. (Lol mlp fim refrence) - greenpower12
If you see someone get bullied, how do you react?
I really hate to say it but every time I see or hear this going on, I usually don't really know how to react. I try to be a help in stopping it but in the end I don't really know what to do or how to do it. - D9341
It can be very difficult to notice sometimes when its happening. I remember not going to any teachers or counselors about it, because it was MY problem, and I feared that talking to someone about it would cost me further humiliation, what friendships I had, and fear of being perceived as "weak". Most of the time victims hide the issue just as much as the aggressor. - adamforce