Thoughts on PolyamoryIt seems to me that most people think of polyamory in terms of threesomes, of swinging. A way of sleeping around that isn't technically "cheating." A prevailing idea in the '60s counterculture was free love. Most people thought they were free, expressing an interchange of love with multiple partners. But it wasn't. It was slutting around without consequences. But at least everyone was equal, and diverging from the old way. In my mind, polyamory isn't openly getting with as many people as you want at a time.Thoughts on Polyamory3 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
It's not speed-dating. There are those who have serial marriages, serial daters. They are with someone for a few weeks, a few months, and then move on. There is no growth in the relationship, and as soon as the partner doesn't meet your conditions anymore, you move on. You are done with them. This kind of carousel relationship practice fall short of what polyamory should be by miles.
To get to the pinnacle of a polyamorous lifes
More Thoughts on PolyamoryPolyamory is very difficult in practice. On paper it makes sense, the theory is good. But to behave in this way is unbelievably frightening to some people. Most people? Maybe it's me, maybe it's the way I go about friendships. If someone becomes interesting enough for me to invest time in, they seem like an intense, intelligent entity that I can learn from, I get excited. Share humor? Yes, motherfucking yes. And when I become dazzled I begin to love the person. It's not that I suddenly fall in love and set all my hopes and dreams on any one person, it's that they have afforded themself the unleashing of the unconditional.More Thoughts on Polyamory2 years ago in Philosophical More Like This
It sounds like I'm laying a trap. Most people that I encounter feel safe and secure within the societal boundaries of entitlement and expectation. They're used to being told they are bad if..., they are good if..., and to me that's not a correct way to go about it. I have my opinions on what
Sonnet II - PolyamoryIf I could only make it clear to all,Sonnet II - Polyamory5 years ago in Traditional Fixed Forms More Like This
How these, the subjects of my amory,
With such diverse delights my heart enthrall;
Comparison is but a frippery.
Where once was one, there may be two or three
Yet to those who assume the maths of love
Can only ever deal in binary,
One person must be ever deemed enough.
But love itself is made of finer stuff
Which weaves it's changing pattern as it will.
It's threads can bear the good times and the rough;
As we add more, it will be stronger still
And such will be the nature of our weft
We will not ever feel ourselves bereft.
2:58am, 14/12/2008, on molly, my room at dal's